Yesterday, husband came home for his lunch break and checked his email. One of the messages was from FaceBook. Apparantly "difficult child posted to her home page" about an hour ago. What? Isn't she in school?
Well, she was in school....in guess what class? Computer.
So when difficult child gets home last night, husband asks her whether she was on FB during school? Her response was not a "No"--it was that she only asked her friends for the websites that would let her by-pass the school's blocking system...and only her friends were on FB today....not her. Well, husband says well somebody posed as you and posted to your page and I can prove it...so you will not get a turn using the computer tonight.
And that was it. difficult child was off on a rage. She went to her bedroom yelling, swearing, smashing, screaming etc. I asked husband to please double-check that our cameras were recording (I sometimes turn them on and forget to actually hit the "record" button).
Next minute, difficult child is out of her room and I hear a strange coughing, snorting, gagging sound. My impression at that moment is that the sounds were very exaggerated--they way one might cough a little extra loudly when they are trying to get your attention.
husband heads down the hall to check the cameras and I hear him yell "O My G-D!!!"
difficult child was in the bathroom with a bloody nose. And I mean BLOODY. It looked like it was spurting and it was everywhere. And to make matters worse difficult child kept snorting very forcefully through her nose.
husband asked what the heck happened? difficult child says "This is what happens when I get upset."
I made her an ice pack and told her to put it on the back of her neck. She yelled "What the h*ll is that gonna do?"
I replied "It's standard first aid." and left it at that. I wasn't about to go twenty rounds over an ice pack.
So we don't know exactly what happened. And naturally, I had indeed forgotten to press the record button on the camera. So whether difficult child had purposefully hit her nose or her head against something in her room (which she will do when raging) or whether it was an accident or whether her pounding heartbeat combined with dry winter air caused a spontaneous nosebleed....I don't know.
There was just a trail of blood starting from her bed and headed down the hallway. It must not have bothered difficult child too much, because she did not bother changing the blood-stained comforter on her bed. (Granted, the bed was not too bad, but still. It needs to be washed.)
Although she DID take a shower to clean up. The first one in about two weeks. Hooray for small miracles.
So is the the new format I can expect from rages? Dramatic injuries?
At family therapy the other night, difficult child had expressed that when somebody threatens suicide, you're not supposed to take them to a hospital. therapist immediately informed her that that was EXACTLY what one should do when a loved one threatens suicide. That seemed to upset her.
So I'm wondering if the suicide threats were purely for manipulation purposes (you know, so that we would do whatever it was that difficult child felt we were supposed to do upon hearing her statements) and now that it is clear that suicide threats will lead to hospitalization, she has to try something else?
I don't really know. I'm just tired. So very mentally fatigued.
Thanks for listening...
--DaisyFace
Well, she was in school....in guess what class? Computer.
So when difficult child gets home last night, husband asks her whether she was on FB during school? Her response was not a "No"--it was that she only asked her friends for the websites that would let her by-pass the school's blocking system...and only her friends were on FB today....not her. Well, husband says well somebody posed as you and posted to your page and I can prove it...so you will not get a turn using the computer tonight.
And that was it. difficult child was off on a rage. She went to her bedroom yelling, swearing, smashing, screaming etc. I asked husband to please double-check that our cameras were recording (I sometimes turn them on and forget to actually hit the "record" button).
Next minute, difficult child is out of her room and I hear a strange coughing, snorting, gagging sound. My impression at that moment is that the sounds were very exaggerated--they way one might cough a little extra loudly when they are trying to get your attention.
husband heads down the hall to check the cameras and I hear him yell "O My G-D!!!"
difficult child was in the bathroom with a bloody nose. And I mean BLOODY. It looked like it was spurting and it was everywhere. And to make matters worse difficult child kept snorting very forcefully through her nose.
husband asked what the heck happened? difficult child says "This is what happens when I get upset."
I made her an ice pack and told her to put it on the back of her neck. She yelled "What the h*ll is that gonna do?"
I replied "It's standard first aid." and left it at that. I wasn't about to go twenty rounds over an ice pack.
So we don't know exactly what happened. And naturally, I had indeed forgotten to press the record button on the camera. So whether difficult child had purposefully hit her nose or her head against something in her room (which she will do when raging) or whether it was an accident or whether her pounding heartbeat combined with dry winter air caused a spontaneous nosebleed....I don't know.
There was just a trail of blood starting from her bed and headed down the hallway. It must not have bothered difficult child too much, because she did not bother changing the blood-stained comforter on her bed. (Granted, the bed was not too bad, but still. It needs to be washed.)
Although she DID take a shower to clean up. The first one in about two weeks. Hooray for small miracles.
So is the the new format I can expect from rages? Dramatic injuries?
At family therapy the other night, difficult child had expressed that when somebody threatens suicide, you're not supposed to take them to a hospital. therapist immediately informed her that that was EXACTLY what one should do when a loved one threatens suicide. That seemed to upset her.
So I'm wondering if the suicide threats were purely for manipulation purposes (you know, so that we would do whatever it was that difficult child felt we were supposed to do upon hearing her statements) and now that it is clear that suicide threats will lead to hospitalization, she has to try something else?
I don't really know. I'm just tired. So very mentally fatigued.
Thanks for listening...
--DaisyFace