Hello all,
My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 1/2 years now and during that time have been dealing with her 11 year old daughter's behavioral issues which include: severe tantrums in public (Screaming, throwing herself on the ground and refusing to move, etc.), talking back very rudely to her mother and refusing to cooperate as well as refusing to leave the house generally (Even for activities that she would enjoy). Most recently, since we moved in together, refusing to leave her room for most of the day when I'm home. She only comes out to get food and immediately takes it back to her room and refuses to spend anytime in general living areas. I'm told that she comes out when I'm not at home. I've tried to befriend her during all of this and nothing has worked.
In terms of her behavior, we've tried disciplinary actions such as taking away when she does not listen or acts out. That typically only heightens the tensions and emotional outbursts. We've also taken her to see a therapist, but when she gets there, she refuses to speak at all to them.
As mentioned, this has been ongoing through our whole relationship and was present before me being in the picture. It has begun to wear on mine and my girlfriend's relationship recently and we're looking for advice from anyone in similar situations.
Thanks!
Bob and Valerie
My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 1/2 years now and during that time have been dealing with her 11 year old daughter's behavioral issues which include: severe tantrums in public (Screaming, throwing herself on the ground and refusing to move, etc.), talking back very rudely to her mother and refusing to cooperate as well as refusing to leave the house generally (Even for activities that she would enjoy). Most recently, since we moved in together, refusing to leave her room for most of the day when I'm home. She only comes out to get food and immediately takes it back to her room and refuses to spend anytime in general living areas. I'm told that she comes out when I'm not at home. I've tried to befriend her during all of this and nothing has worked.
In terms of her behavior, we've tried disciplinary actions such as taking away when she does not listen or acts out. That typically only heightens the tensions and emotional outbursts. We've also taken her to see a therapist, but when she gets there, she refuses to speak at all to them.
As mentioned, this has been ongoing through our whole relationship and was present before me being in the picture. It has begun to wear on mine and my girlfriend's relationship recently and we're looking for advice from anyone in similar situations.
Thanks!
Bob and Valerie