My son is 16, recently diagnosed mild ADD-inattentive, ODD. Never a perfect child, always a bit impulsive at times and had less coping skills than peers (easily irritated), and seemed to be immature regarding problem solving techniques, but manageable without intervention. Nevertheless, grades were excellent through Elementary school, good in Middle School, and "pretty good" in High School. Talented athlete- loved sports more than anything (had college scholarship potential without a doubt). In the past year, he has become overly defiant, leaves home for days without permission (turns off cell phone and "disappears"), has huge entitlement issues, and has destroyed home property in anger when restrictions are placed on him for behavior. Was truant from school almost to the point of being kicked out at the beginning of the year, but has since recovered from that and grades are decent. He is currently attending school without incident, but has quit all sports and changes peer groups constantly. He has been found with pot, paraphernalia, and alcohol at home on various occasions. We have tried counseling, restricting his privileges, etc to no avail. While his grades are good right now (beginning of new semester), he is verbally abusive when he doesnt get his way, which often leads to physical damage in our home. He lies constantly and is extremely manipulative. Each time he has caused physical damage, we have filed a police report to document. He has no respect for us, and is quick to tell us this. He says we are just not wanting him to grow up, and that he should be allowed to do whatever he wants. He is only 16 and we are legally responsible for him and his welfare. Finally, we reached a point of filing an ungovernable charge through our local Department of Juvenile Justice a couple of months ago, and the case will come up within the next two weeks (yes, it took that long). He will likely be put in an intervention program for extensive counseling, drug testing, and weekly meetings before a Family Court judge, as well as being given a strict curfew schedule. While he knows this proceeding is going forward, he refuses to acknowledge the possible consequences involved and the road he is about to travel, and honestly Im extremely nervous about his reaction and whats to come. We felt we needed to have a strong intervention if we are to ever get back to the point of having a trust-worthy, responsible son, but scared we are pushing him farther away at the same time. Weve tried the talking to him, telling him we love him, etc, but he throws back the no parent does this to their kid, etc. Has anyone gone down this path?