My sister who is a few years older has always been aggressive and somewhat abrasive. She got pregnant as a teenager and kept the baby. She married and divorced then married a second time and seemed to have her life together. Went through treatment program had bought a house new car great job etc. then about 15 years ago got divorced and moved to the coast. About 7 years ago we went for a visit and feel in love with the area. About 4 years ago we decided to buy a second home there. We ended up purchasing a older home which need a little updating but was in a very nice area 3 miles from the water. We made an agreement with my sister and her boyfriend that since she was renting a place we would rent our 2nd home to her at a greatly reduced rent ( less than half) and she could manage the property and we could come and stay there a couple times a year. Long story short. It hasn't worked out as intended. The first year or two things were ok although she didn't really follow through with getting things looked after as much as we would like. Her boyfriend had a stroke and his children decided to put him in a nursing home since he needed more care than my sister was capable of giving while working full time. That seems to be when things really started going to heck. She started drinking and lost her job. At that point she got into arrears with her rent but we worked with her and she eventually got her old job back. Then in march she asked to borrow money to buy a used car. We didn't have the money to loan and I told her so. We've loaned her money several previous times and always had problems getting repaid. So when rent came around in April she posted to her FB account that I was going to be mad because she'd used her rent money to buy a car since we didn't loan her the money. When I confronted her it got really nasty and she started demanding repairs on the house and threatening code violations and turning us in as derelict landlords etc. even though she was behind 3 months plus on her rent. I got fed up and started eviction proceedings. We live over 1200 miles away so I had to wait for summer vacation before my husband and I could go out there again.
Well after getting served with eviction papers she changed her tune and asked us for a second chance. Being the enabler I am I talked my husband into offering her a new lease and letting her pay an extra $50 a month on the past due rent. That was in may. We hired a contractor to fix some things around the house and had to have the Florida room rebuilt because of the lack of maintenance and leaks she hadn't dealt with. We ended up paying $15,000 in all getting things done.
In July we went out to see the progress and visit and the day we arrived we were told she had lost her job again we were also informed she had a new roommate. Under the circumstances with her hostility and roommate we were unable to stay in our home and had to stay at a hotel racking up another $1000 cost. She said since she had a new lease she was a renter not a caretaker. It was shocking to see how bad things had progressed with her. She is 5'10 and weighed 96 pounds. She says it's stress but she is abusing alcohol and pain medication. She also smokes and her health is terrible. While we were there she was a paranoid mess. I never saw her eat a bite of food. Just drink and smoke. She couldn't even function to fill out the online form for unemployment and thought her old boss who fired her was hacking her computer to stop her from filing. She had to be escorted off the premises of her job when she got fired. I tried to reason with her but she was very defensive. Now things have turned nasty again and she is demanding everything under the sun including kitchen updates, etc. we had to take a home equity loan out on our house to make the repairs we already made so we told her no. The house is very live able but she has started the derelict landlord business again. Her roommate moved out after a month because my sister was so unreasonable I know she took out what retirement she had saved in her year back at her job and also started getting unemployment. However She also hasn't paid rent for October so we sent a 3 day pay or quit letter.
This week we received a hateful email from her and to top it off she is now trying to extort my husband and me. We were totally floored by her claims
Part of her email reads as follows:
THIS IS THE CRUX OF MY EMAIL:
It is very clear that you intend to evict me rather than work with me as a tenant or sister in law. Which is why I never bothered to give any explanation for the circumstances surrounding my inability to pay Oct rent in full on that day. Both you have made it VERY CLEAR that you do not care about the circumstances (which it is also stated in the written lease).
With constant threats of eviction, your failure to follow through on your responsibility as a landlord and having to sign a lease that has illegal requirements included. I'm going to have to state something that I was hoping for over 3 years I would never have to bring up,because you are my family.
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JUST SO MY POSITION IS CLEAR, I am not leaving voluntarily. If you are unwilling to work with me then you will have to legally evict me. If you decide to proceed with the eviction process rather than working with me regarding my current circumstances and allowing me to catch up on past due rent.
You will leave me no choice but to report both you for fraud and conspiracy to commit fraud to Wells Fargo and FHA regarding your mortgage loan. If guilty of those both of you can be criminally prosecuted, also Wells Fargo will call in the balance of the loan within 30 days or foreclose on the property.
Be advised that I do have the evidence to provide showing both intent to commit fraud and that fraud was committed. I really do not want to proceed this way but feel like you have left me no other choice.
If I do not have a written reply as to your intent of either evicting me or working with me by 10-24-16. I will follow through on reporting the fraud.
Our answer was that we had never conspired or committed fraud and that she could contact whoever she pleases but the eviction is going through as planned. What a kick in the head. I can't believe she tried to extort us. According to the state statutes she has just committed a class 2 felony and since it was made by email online it is also a federal crime too. We are just done and want her out of our lives. I am so disgusted and ashamed that I wanted to give her a second chance. I feel like I never learn when it comes to my family and I am constantly amazed at the depths they will go to drag me down and stab me in the back after helping them. Sorry for such a long post but I had to vent.
Well after getting served with eviction papers she changed her tune and asked us for a second chance. Being the enabler I am I talked my husband into offering her a new lease and letting her pay an extra $50 a month on the past due rent. That was in may. We hired a contractor to fix some things around the house and had to have the Florida room rebuilt because of the lack of maintenance and leaks she hadn't dealt with. We ended up paying $15,000 in all getting things done.
In July we went out to see the progress and visit and the day we arrived we were told she had lost her job again we were also informed she had a new roommate. Under the circumstances with her hostility and roommate we were unable to stay in our home and had to stay at a hotel racking up another $1000 cost. She said since she had a new lease she was a renter not a caretaker. It was shocking to see how bad things had progressed with her. She is 5'10 and weighed 96 pounds. She says it's stress but she is abusing alcohol and pain medication. She also smokes and her health is terrible. While we were there she was a paranoid mess. I never saw her eat a bite of food. Just drink and smoke. She couldn't even function to fill out the online form for unemployment and thought her old boss who fired her was hacking her computer to stop her from filing. She had to be escorted off the premises of her job when she got fired. I tried to reason with her but she was very defensive. Now things have turned nasty again and she is demanding everything under the sun including kitchen updates, etc. we had to take a home equity loan out on our house to make the repairs we already made so we told her no. The house is very live able but she has started the derelict landlord business again. Her roommate moved out after a month because my sister was so unreasonable I know she took out what retirement she had saved in her year back at her job and also started getting unemployment. However She also hasn't paid rent for October so we sent a 3 day pay or quit letter.
This week we received a hateful email from her and to top it off she is now trying to extort my husband and me. We were totally floored by her claims
Part of her email reads as follows:
THIS IS THE CRUX OF MY EMAIL:
It is very clear that you intend to evict me rather than work with me as a tenant or sister in law. Which is why I never bothered to give any explanation for the circumstances surrounding my inability to pay Oct rent in full on that day. Both you have made it VERY CLEAR that you do not care about the circumstances (which it is also stated in the written lease).
With constant threats of eviction, your failure to follow through on your responsibility as a landlord and having to sign a lease that has illegal requirements included. I'm going to have to state something that I was hoping for over 3 years I would never have to bring up,because you are my family.
**********************************************************
JUST SO MY POSITION IS CLEAR, I am not leaving voluntarily. If you are unwilling to work with me then you will have to legally evict me. If you decide to proceed with the eviction process rather than working with me regarding my current circumstances and allowing me to catch up on past due rent.
You will leave me no choice but to report both you for fraud and conspiracy to commit fraud to Wells Fargo and FHA regarding your mortgage loan. If guilty of those both of you can be criminally prosecuted, also Wells Fargo will call in the balance of the loan within 30 days or foreclose on the property.
Be advised that I do have the evidence to provide showing both intent to commit fraud and that fraud was committed. I really do not want to proceed this way but feel like you have left me no other choice.
If I do not have a written reply as to your intent of either evicting me or working with me by 10-24-16. I will follow through on reporting the fraud.
Our answer was that we had never conspired or committed fraud and that she could contact whoever she pleases but the eviction is going through as planned. What a kick in the head. I can't believe she tried to extort us. According to the state statutes she has just committed a class 2 felony and since it was made by email online it is also a federal crime too. We are just done and want her out of our lives. I am so disgusted and ashamed that I wanted to give her a second chance. I feel like I never learn when it comes to my family and I am constantly amazed at the depths they will go to drag me down and stab me in the back after helping them. Sorry for such a long post but I had to vent.
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