tammybackagain
New Member
hi all was on here for years with difficult child he's grown on his own and doing well now. But I now have 4 grandkids. found out few months ago that one of the grandkids was in fostercare due to mother leaving him alone for week with 9 yr old older brother, he was 6 at time. well after fighting due to difficult child not being able to get custody due to not having room we fought and won custody. when we went to meeting found out he is ADHD, and possible ODD. so it all starts over, so far in month been teaching husband how to cope but it's driving me crazy, when difficult child was this age husband was at work most of the time but now he is disabled so he is seeing most of the behaviors some grandson does only when husband isn't around... any suggestions on how to quickly teach husband how to not engage, stick with punishments and not go overboard? Thanks