We're back from vacation and unfortunately nothing has changed. It was pretty tense at times especially in the beginning. Here's just a small example of how his thinking is right now in this stage (lets hope it's a stage/phase) of his life. About four days before we go on vacation he gets a tattoo...we camp at the lake every year which means we will be swimming A LOT. So he's miserable because he can't get the tattoo wet yet. And he makes everyone else just as miserable. Hello, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure if you cant get a tattoo wet then don't get one right before you go on vacation on the water! He's walking around complaining..."I should have never came" and "this is so stupid"! Every time something didn't go his way he would run off doing God knows what. There were times that he seemed his old self again and I really enjoyed being with him and it gave me a little hope. That all changed when we got home. We got home late and had a lot of stuff to unload. He runs off and we didn't see him for about 15 minutes. He comes out of the shower and asks me to drive him to a friends house. Meanwhile we're still all unpacking. I tell him no that didn't he see that we are still unpacking and that he needs to help us. He has a fit and (his temper has gotten really bad) he takes off on a bike from the garage. He didn't come home that night. So the next day we told him that If he wanted to live here he needs to start therapy ASAP, submit to drug tests by us and follow our house rules or leave by Sunday. He chose the latter. I know he doesn't have anywhere to go and will try to procrastinate. Has anyone had the situation where there difficult child wouldn't leave? And if so what did you do? On another note...any suggestions on how to stay unified with your spouse when your not always on the same page with all the issues with difficult child? Thanks!