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Mamaof5
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I'm taking a crack at these types of systems with my Big B.
What do you think of this? Is it too much, too little? These are the major power struggle areas for him and I. Am I too cold with wording, should child be his name (or does that single him out), our names where parent is...make it more warm or just leave clinical like.
This type of "discipline" is new to me. I'm a natural parenting type (what most refer to as crunchy, gentle discipline, unconditional parenting, a form of consensual living except health and safety are non negotiable - not like I allow him the natural consequences of sticking the palm of his hand on a hot stove top or anything). My concern is it might be redundant is some areas or I may be expecting too much.
BEHAVIORAL EXPECTATIONS
Wake up:
0 5 points
Gets up when called
Dresses appropriately
Brushes teeth
Makes Lunches
Combs hair
Out the door on time
School:
0 5 points
Follows school rules
Does not disturb others
Uses materials or equipment appropriately
Listens to staff
Makes effort to complete assigned work
Bedtime:
0 5 points
Knows his/her correct bedtime and observes it
Completes necessary tasks prior to bedtime
Remains quiet and orderly and does not disturb others while in his/her room
Completes homework in timely fashion before bedtime
Shower Time:
0 3 points
Showers in 5 minutes then dresses promptly
Showers every second or third day
Recreation/Outside
0 10 points
Stays in front and parent view
Obeys rules of outside play
Obey other parental presence and authority when parent is not there
Respect friends
No in and out of the house
When called in, come in
530 PM is dinner time, must be home at that time
Always ask before going to friends houses
Call if going to be late
Cooperation:
0 10 points
(Weekends 0-7 pts and Evening 0-3 pts)
Addresses family members with respect
Cooperative and keeps hands & feet to self
Does not disrupt conversation and waits turn to talk
Follows directions and does not engage in loud or unruly behavior
No talk back or sass when asked to perform a responsibility or duty
Respects friends and personal space of people around them
Keeps hands/feet and comments to self
Does not horseplay
Follows directions
Responsibilities:
0 10 points
Completes the work assignment in a cooperative manner and follows instruction
Does not waste time
Room Clean Up:
0 3 points
Bed is made
Floor is swept daily
Nothing is on the floor
Dishes:
0 2 points
Done ever night
No arguments over who's turn it is
No fighting about the chore
General Tidiness of House Up:
0 5 points
Helps keep the house tidy
When asked to pick up something does so with respect and promptly
Puts jacket, backpack and shoes where they belong
Daily Points:
Monday
Tuesday
Wednesday
Thursday
Friday
Saturday
Sunday
Weekly Points:
Week
Point Total
Monthly Points:
Month : April
Points Gained
Points Revoked
Total
Points gained for the following behavioral contract and expectations can be redeemed for privileges such as phone time, computer time, television or movie privileges (above and beyond normal privileges) or other rewards set out at the beginning of every week.
Two (2) reminders for each section will be given, after the last reminder a set of points is revoked for each time the responsibility is ignored or unperformed. Upon correction of behavior the point may be given back by only the parent that revoked the point.
Once a week a privilege is given by redeeming points earned. Points may be saved on a monthly basis for larger privileges desired (new game for Wii, a toy or game board desired, etc).
PENALTIES
Penalties are negative reinforcement designed to reduce the frequency of misbehavior when
rewards do not produce the desired behavior. Before a penalty is given, the child will be given an explanation of the misbehavior and given a chance to explain his/her behavior. An explanation or excuse by the child does not mean that the penalty will be removed.
The following types of penalties that will be used:
Verbal Correction is a notice to the child in a firm assertive manner that his/her behavior is
not appropriate and a directive as to what the parent specifically wants him/her to do. There is
no loss of points for a verbal correction but loss of points for 2 consecutive verbal corrections.
Restriction follows two verbal corrections in most cases. It results from the child ignoring the verbal correction or for failure to correct behavior after being given two verbal corrections. A restriction results in no points earned for that hour of activity.
Fines are penalties given for deliberate defiance of a rule or expected behavior or failure to
correct behavior after a restriction is given. A fine will result in 10 points being deducted from
the point card.
Rebates are refunds of fines when a behavior is corrected. Only the parent who issued the fine may issue a rebate. Rebates must be issued before the end of day, before bedtime. All or part of the fined points may be rebated.
Child Signature
Parents Signature
DATE:
What do you think of this? Is it too much, too little? These are the major power struggle areas for him and I. Am I too cold with wording, should child be his name (or does that single him out), our names where parent is...make it more warm or just leave clinical like.
This type of "discipline" is new to me. I'm a natural parenting type (what most refer to as crunchy, gentle discipline, unconditional parenting, a form of consensual living except health and safety are non negotiable - not like I allow him the natural consequences of sticking the palm of his hand on a hot stove top or anything). My concern is it might be redundant is some areas or I may be expecting too much.
BEHAVIORAL EXPECTATIONS
Wake up:
0 5 points
Gets up when called
Dresses appropriately
Brushes teeth
Makes Lunches
Combs hair
Out the door on time
School:
0 5 points
Follows school rules
Does not disturb others
Uses materials or equipment appropriately
Listens to staff
Makes effort to complete assigned work
Bedtime:
0 5 points
Knows his/her correct bedtime and observes it
Completes necessary tasks prior to bedtime
Remains quiet and orderly and does not disturb others while in his/her room
Completes homework in timely fashion before bedtime
Shower Time:
0 3 points
Showers in 5 minutes then dresses promptly
Showers every second or third day
Recreation/Outside
0 10 points
Stays in front and parent view
Obeys rules of outside play
Obey other parental presence and authority when parent is not there
Respect friends
No in and out of the house
When called in, come in
530 PM is dinner time, must be home at that time
Always ask before going to friends houses
Call if going to be late
Cooperation:
0 10 points
(Weekends 0-7 pts and Evening 0-3 pts)
Addresses family members with respect
Cooperative and keeps hands & feet to self
Does not disrupt conversation and waits turn to talk
Follows directions and does not engage in loud or unruly behavior
No talk back or sass when asked to perform a responsibility or duty
Respects friends and personal space of people around them
Keeps hands/feet and comments to self
Does not horseplay
Follows directions
Responsibilities:
0 10 points
Completes the work assignment in a cooperative manner and follows instruction
Does not waste time
Room Clean Up:
0 3 points
Bed is made
Floor is swept daily
Nothing is on the floor
Dishes:
0 2 points
Done ever night
No arguments over who's turn it is
No fighting about the chore
General Tidiness of House Up:
0 5 points
Helps keep the house tidy
When asked to pick up something does so with respect and promptly
Puts jacket, backpack and shoes where they belong
Daily Points:
Monday
Tuesday
Wednesday
Thursday
Friday
Saturday
Sunday
Weekly Points:
Week
Point Total
Monthly Points:
Month : April
Points Gained
Points Revoked
Total
Points gained for the following behavioral contract and expectations can be redeemed for privileges such as phone time, computer time, television or movie privileges (above and beyond normal privileges) or other rewards set out at the beginning of every week.
Two (2) reminders for each section will be given, after the last reminder a set of points is revoked for each time the responsibility is ignored or unperformed. Upon correction of behavior the point may be given back by only the parent that revoked the point.
Once a week a privilege is given by redeeming points earned. Points may be saved on a monthly basis for larger privileges desired (new game for Wii, a toy or game board desired, etc).
PENALTIES
Penalties are negative reinforcement designed to reduce the frequency of misbehavior when
rewards do not produce the desired behavior. Before a penalty is given, the child will be given an explanation of the misbehavior and given a chance to explain his/her behavior. An explanation or excuse by the child does not mean that the penalty will be removed.
The following types of penalties that will be used:
Verbal Correction is a notice to the child in a firm assertive manner that his/her behavior is
not appropriate and a directive as to what the parent specifically wants him/her to do. There is
no loss of points for a verbal correction but loss of points for 2 consecutive verbal corrections.
Restriction follows two verbal corrections in most cases. It results from the child ignoring the verbal correction or for failure to correct behavior after being given two verbal corrections. A restriction results in no points earned for that hour of activity.
Fines are penalties given for deliberate defiance of a rule or expected behavior or failure to
correct behavior after a restriction is given. A fine will result in 10 points being deducted from
the point card.
Rebates are refunds of fines when a behavior is corrected. Only the parent who issued the fine may issue a rebate. Rebates must be issued before the end of day, before bedtime. All or part of the fined points may be rebated.
Child Signature
Parents Signature
DATE: