toughlovin
Well-Known Member
Hi all,
I posted on my other thread that my friend, who is helping me with difficult child, told me I need to stop thinking/using language that indicates I think difficult child will screw up again. He is right but gosh I do that to protect myself. I am really afraid to get really hopeful even though at the moment difficult child is doing well, my husband had a good visit with him and my friend saw him today and also said he is in a good place. difficult child agreed to committing 90 days at my friends sober house and was really positive about it apparently. So things are definitely looking up. My husband said he seems like he is in a different place.
How do I though believe in him, believe in the process, without setting myself up for a fall if he doesnt make it again. This has happened so many times a part of me just has to reserve judgement and wait and see. I guess my first step is to think about what I say to him and to sound positive even though I am really scared that this is only temporary.
Any words of wisdom on this?
TL
I posted on my other thread that my friend, who is helping me with difficult child, told me I need to stop thinking/using language that indicates I think difficult child will screw up again. He is right but gosh I do that to protect myself. I am really afraid to get really hopeful even though at the moment difficult child is doing well, my husband had a good visit with him and my friend saw him today and also said he is in a good place. difficult child agreed to committing 90 days at my friends sober house and was really positive about it apparently. So things are definitely looking up. My husband said he seems like he is in a different place.
How do I though believe in him, believe in the process, without setting myself up for a fall if he doesnt make it again. This has happened so many times a part of me just has to reserve judgement and wait and see. I guess my first step is to think about what I say to him and to sound positive even though I am really scared that this is only temporary.
Any words of wisdom on this?
TL