I also wonder about sleep, and about protein. is there a way to find out what he ate at school? it may not be just that he was hungry or tired, but that what he had to eat was not what he needed. My difficult child and my gfgbro both get nasty if they have sugar on an empty stomach. I used to dread birthday parties at school when gfgbro's class had one because he would be so mean when we got home. My bro is a mean drunk but he is even meaner if he is sober and has a candy bar on an empty stomach. He had to learn to ALWAYS keep something with protein in his backpack or car or whatever, or else it got out of control. Wiz is much the same way. Now Wiz mostly just makes sure to eat fairly healthily with small meals and snacks with protein, and to go for those balance or zone bars when he wants sweets but hasn't eaten. the change is startling. Those bars that are NOT at least 30% protein are candy bars and they have the same results. this is NOT just low blood sugar, it is the quality of the food and it must be high protein.
thank you makes me think of your son. There are days that thank you comes home an just can NOT cope with ANYTHING. He can't even figure out how to open a cheese stick on those days, much less choose a cheese stick to eat. it usually is a day when they did a lot of things that are sensory challenges for him (classmates discovering axe type products created aa LOT of these!) and/or the lunch did not have enough good quality protein for his needs. He will sit and gritch (grump and &itch) and dither and then burst into tears if you say anything. We keep things around just for those times and I keep the balance bars in my purse, husband's backpack and often our coat pockets because they will work when thank you is at that point. I even open the package with-o asking him if he needs help - I know he does and he does too. The difference it makes is astounding.
For all of elem school I had a protein snack ad a drink with me when I picked thank you up from school. I got those packages of peanuts etc.... at Sams and kept them in the car, and took a drink with me and another snack if t was easy. This really cut down non the afterschool tantrums. By the time we got home he had eaten and was more able to deal with homework, family, etc...
I suggest trying this and keeping a diary of what is going on, etc...
I am PROUD of you for calling again!!! this is GOOD. I would NOt worry about charges following him as an adult. if he gets the message and stays out of trouble, then he can have it cleared when he is old neough to take that adult responsibility. I know ADULTS who got SERIOUS felonies and got them expunged, so that record is NOT etched in stone, Know what I mean??
Have you spoken to the chief or anyone else at the police dept? i urge you to do this. they may have ideas or know who is best to send for this kind of problem. I am THRILLED that they got onto him about his room!! have you talked iwth the therapist about what the officer told you? what was her advice regarding the police?
Gotta go to sleep now, proud of you!