therese005us
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Another tiresome day with DS19.
The fellow that wanted him to work three days this week, just helping hold up plasterboard while he screwed it up, rang again. He again told him I wouldn't drive him to work, and he didn't want to ride his bike. It would have been about 12km, and the fellow offered to pick him up part way. Still said no!
He told me it was my fault, why should he have to ride, when i should drive him. He'd pay me $50 in petrol. I kept reiterating that i wanted him to take responsibility for himself, motivate himself for good (he has ridden the bike to sneak out for alcohol), he's a healthy lad, with enough energy to ride the short distance in the cool of the morning.. etc. etc.
I asked him later to put the 3 star pickets in that I'd askked him to this morning - he didn't feel like it, could he do it tomorrow? I cracked, said therefore I didn't feel like giving him dinner, and please leave the house (he was geetting a drink of water)
Oh, okay, I'll do it then. But I woldn't let him, I jsut said I was sick of having to beg, blackmail, cajole, for everything I want to get done. He had the audacity to say, I don't do anything for him why should he do for me?
Thi smorning Miss Rachael had to spend an extra hour and a half in the car (when she could have been studying comfortably) because I drove him to put in resumes. Yesterday, we waited in the car an extra 2o minutes while he chose DVDs etc. - but I don't do anything for him!
He went back to his caravan then sent begging texts, asking me to change my mind, as he didn't want to starve! I didn't give in and made sure Kate had her dinner early so there wasn't any left! Sorry,, that's mean, but I have to hit him where it hurts. I've also refused to make a special trip for him to put his centrelink form in, or rremind him about his appointments. I've provided a calendar for him to keep track, I'm sick of breathing for him as well.
I've told him I might not feel like driving him to his regular casual job next week, either. So he said he won't be able to pay 'rent'.
Do you think some of this behaviour might have been set off by his first hour of therapy with the psychologist? he probably didn't pull any punches either. DS reckons he was lecturing him the whole time...
I went up a one way street the wrong way today, and then nearly got wiped out on a roundabout. I think I'm losing it! I can't think he's got me so stressed. That, the student and cherub are sending me grey.
However, I'll get through, with God's grace.
Miss Rachael has been begging me to hook the caravan up and take it to the wilderness. Since it's worth $5500 I'm not prepared to do that, but it's a thought
The fellow that wanted him to work three days this week, just helping hold up plasterboard while he screwed it up, rang again. He again told him I wouldn't drive him to work, and he didn't want to ride his bike. It would have been about 12km, and the fellow offered to pick him up part way. Still said no!
He told me it was my fault, why should he have to ride, when i should drive him. He'd pay me $50 in petrol. I kept reiterating that i wanted him to take responsibility for himself, motivate himself for good (he has ridden the bike to sneak out for alcohol), he's a healthy lad, with enough energy to ride the short distance in the cool of the morning.. etc. etc.
I asked him later to put the 3 star pickets in that I'd askked him to this morning - he didn't feel like it, could he do it tomorrow? I cracked, said therefore I didn't feel like giving him dinner, and please leave the house (he was geetting a drink of water)
Oh, okay, I'll do it then. But I woldn't let him, I jsut said I was sick of having to beg, blackmail, cajole, for everything I want to get done. He had the audacity to say, I don't do anything for him why should he do for me?
Thi smorning Miss Rachael had to spend an extra hour and a half in the car (when she could have been studying comfortably) because I drove him to put in resumes. Yesterday, we waited in the car an extra 2o minutes while he chose DVDs etc. - but I don't do anything for him!
He went back to his caravan then sent begging texts, asking me to change my mind, as he didn't want to starve! I didn't give in and made sure Kate had her dinner early so there wasn't any left! Sorry,, that's mean, but I have to hit him where it hurts. I've also refused to make a special trip for him to put his centrelink form in, or rremind him about his appointments. I've provided a calendar for him to keep track, I'm sick of breathing for him as well.
I've told him I might not feel like driving him to his regular casual job next week, either. So he said he won't be able to pay 'rent'.
Do you think some of this behaviour might have been set off by his first hour of therapy with the psychologist? he probably didn't pull any punches either. DS reckons he was lecturing him the whole time...
I went up a one way street the wrong way today, and then nearly got wiped out on a roundabout. I think I'm losing it! I can't think he's got me so stressed. That, the student and cherub are sending me grey.
However, I'll get through, with God's grace.
Miss Rachael has been begging me to hook the caravan up and take it to the wilderness. Since it's worth $5500 I'm not prepared to do that, but it's a thought