Wow! First I want to say thank you to all of you. It makes my heart a little lighter to know that I am not nuts for thinking it and that I am not the only mom of a child with a mental illness who has thought this or worried about it.
I think that what Sue said could very well be a good point. Obviously, we have all fought for our kids to get them the help that they needed. Maybe it's the fact that we did the fighting that none of us have ever been the parent of someone accused of doing something like this. I don't know. I don't have an answer. I just know that it makes me feel a little better to know that I am not the only one.
I do alot of cross stitching and I belong to several stitching boards. One of the boards is open to anyone and one of the members is, in my opinion, a very nasty woman who likes to point out everyone else's deficiancies, but fails to see her own. Anyway, someone posted a thread on that board stating how they felt bad for the parents of the alleged shooter and that they are praying for that family as well as for the families of the victims and this woman posted to the thread that what happened was all the fault of the parents because they didn't make their son get help. I guess it just bothered me. I get crazy when people say, "blame the parents" because maybe, just maybe, the parents did all that they could, or all that they knew how to do, and it still wasn't enough. If that were my son, would it be all my fault, knowing that I have done everything that I have been asked to do in order to help him? I don't think so, but I know there would be people out there who would have no problem saying, "it's the parents' fault."
Sorry. I just re-read what I wrote. I don't mean to get preachy. My fingers just got away with me.
Pam