Malika
Well-Known Member
There is an 8 year old boy in the village who has taken against J - I really don't know why but it seemed to coincide with the time J started playing with a friend of this boy's who comes to visit his divorced dad here. Anyway, J has told me he asks to play with this kid and his friends sometimes at school (all the different ages play together as it is such a small school - about 38 kids in total) and they have started to say no, quite nastily apparently. Anyway, today at lunchtime, J came home all excited because he said this kid had asked him to come and play with them and he would show J a place he didn't know... ah, I thought, he's had a pang of conscience, or an adult has spoken to him about it.
No. When he was talking about it again tonight, J said the kid had asked him to come "at midnight" - of course J doesn't understand that that means in the night, and that the kid was nastily making fun of him. Poor, sweet little J - he was so happy and excited about being included with the older boys...
I actually feel quite furious with this child and want to tell him next time I see him to stop this spitefulness or I will talk to his parents... while being aware that that is not maybe the best way to handle it. I have told J to say to this boy that J doesn't want to play with him, and I explained that he was being nasty not friendly - it hurt to have to do it, but I think J needs to understand.
What would you do?
No. When he was talking about it again tonight, J said the kid had asked him to come "at midnight" - of course J doesn't understand that that means in the night, and that the kid was nastily making fun of him. Poor, sweet little J - he was so happy and excited about being included with the older boys...
I actually feel quite furious with this child and want to tell him next time I see him to stop this spitefulness or I will talk to his parents... while being aware that that is not maybe the best way to handle it. I have told J to say to this boy that J doesn't want to play with him, and I explained that he was being nasty not friendly - it hurt to have to do it, but I think J needs to understand.
What would you do?