KTmom -
I couldn't go back to read what happened, but TM covered it pretty well. I actually didn't want to read about it. It makes me so angry I could spit nails. been there done that with Dude and the only advice I can offer you now is to get through this however you can, get therapy for EVERYONE, and know that you do have it in your heart to forgive these people so that YOU and KT bug can move forward.....because eventually God or the board Aunties WILL catch up to those involved.
I wish I were there to catch your tears - I'd put them in my pocket, and return them to you in crystals.
Hugs.......HUGE HUGE HUGS.....
Star