barbie
MOM of 3
We started with another behvaior therapy aganecy and Eric has his assigned therapist and Danae has an assigned therapist. Tuesday I took Danae and Eric to P-doctor and Eric was so out of hand, I was literally restraining him, the nurse calls us back, and the dr looks at me and says oh so you are still having issues with aggressiveness? Uh yeah. I was angry, I got lost on the way home. Erics therapist comes over and Danae to who I had explained that she gets her own person, kept interrupting Eric session, and these are important so she can truly observe him and see how he is, Danae kept coming in, I asked her to go her room and watch TV, not good enough, I told her to do it, NOT good enough, I picked her up and made her do it, NOT good enough, she starts getting these papers on the top of her closet and comes to color with the therapist, but here is the sticky part, when they are wrapping up, Danae is balancing on her closet doorknob and I show the therapist this, I go to the room taker her off of the door and I escort her to the garage a very scary place for me, with exercise equipment in it, and bags of stuffed animals, Danae ofcousrse is screaming. I walk back to the therapist and she has her hands over her ears and says i can't listen to this, she sound frightened. I tell her its not a scary place unless you are overweight most times we go back to check on her and she is on the bo-flex, swinging back and forth "excercising" or playing on her rug with the stuffed animals, I know I am terrible time-out with activities.
Lo and behold two days later, CPS is at my door. To me I am not angry because this woman can open door for Eric to get the therapies he needs and push his approvals along. My CPS worker is so nice and she is helpful, I had personally been inquiring about parenting classes for parents of kids with special needs, she OFFERS it to me without me asking, I break down in tears over the phone I am so happy she came. She gets Erics medical records and says she is going to get him into the CMS program and he will get staffed and have a nurse that can come to the house and see him, they can get him the occupational therapy United has taken so long to process, a speech therapist. She even agrees with me that those therapies shouldnt stop just because the school year does. I am elated CPS is stepping in they can open those doors for me.
I called the behavior place and request that the therapist not come back to my home. Not becasue she called CPS, but becasue if she honestly thought I was doing something wrong and she was there to help the kids and help me work with the kids, I imagine she would have stopped me and showed me or suggested a better way to handle the situation. But if Danae would have fallen off the doorknob cause she is a heavy kid or broken it, fallen and broken some part of her body, I think thats alot worse than me taking her out of one room and placing her in another and if she is screaming then she is screaming becasue she knows she has done something and what kid wants a time out. Danae is in therapy for her tantrums for her anxieties, because of the behaviors the therapist expressed concern about. Im concerned too thats why Im getting them therapy, and to doctors and losing hours at work to get them what they need.
I am not angry because she called CPS, I am angry becasue of the way she went about it, If you are a therapist in my home and you know my kids have special needs, by gods if you see me discipline them and you feel there is a better way to deal with it, tell me then, say something so that I can correct my behavior and theirs is a way that works for both of us, or show me how, so I can try it your way and see if it works. Im willing to work with anything. Im grasping at straws that is why she is there. Am I wrong?
Lo and behold two days later, CPS is at my door. To me I am not angry because this woman can open door for Eric to get the therapies he needs and push his approvals along. My CPS worker is so nice and she is helpful, I had personally been inquiring about parenting classes for parents of kids with special needs, she OFFERS it to me without me asking, I break down in tears over the phone I am so happy she came. She gets Erics medical records and says she is going to get him into the CMS program and he will get staffed and have a nurse that can come to the house and see him, they can get him the occupational therapy United has taken so long to process, a speech therapist. She even agrees with me that those therapies shouldnt stop just because the school year does. I am elated CPS is stepping in they can open those doors for me.
I called the behavior place and request that the therapist not come back to my home. Not becasue she called CPS, but becasue if she honestly thought I was doing something wrong and she was there to help the kids and help me work with the kids, I imagine she would have stopped me and showed me or suggested a better way to handle the situation. But if Danae would have fallen off the doorknob cause she is a heavy kid or broken it, fallen and broken some part of her body, I think thats alot worse than me taking her out of one room and placing her in another and if she is screaming then she is screaming becasue she knows she has done something and what kid wants a time out. Danae is in therapy for her tantrums for her anxieties, because of the behaviors the therapist expressed concern about. Im concerned too thats why Im getting them therapy, and to doctors and losing hours at work to get them what they need.
I am not angry because she called CPS, I am angry becasue of the way she went about it, If you are a therapist in my home and you know my kids have special needs, by gods if you see me discipline them and you feel there is a better way to deal with it, tell me then, say something so that I can correct my behavior and theirs is a way that works for both of us, or show me how, so I can try it your way and see if it works. Im willing to work with anything. Im grasping at straws that is why she is there. Am I wrong?