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AmericanGirl
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Hi all,
I need to make some decisions. My brain is churning so I'm going to write it out. Any suggestions welcomed.
He is still in jail. Hearing is Monday at 4pm. Judge can decide to release him without bail.
Charges of public intoxication, disorderly conduct and attempting to allude. None have much jail times. Only fines.
If I charge him with unauthorized use of a vehicle, it can carry 1-12 months in jail. We all know it will be WAY on the short side of that. Plus his drivers license will be automatically suspended for probably 3 months. If I charge him here, they may not go get him due to price of gas. I don't know if that means he would have a warrant out until they happen to find him closer or what? The jail there said the last thing they would do prior to releasing him is look for warrants. Then they asked me if this police dept would come get him. Sounds like he would walk if they wouldn't.
If he comes back here Monday or Tuesday, he would see the judge here Tuesday night. His biggest old playmate will be in court. difficult child was supposed to testify for this idiot but I got DA to decline to call him as he is an unreliable witness.
I think I could go charge him there (90 miles away) even though I filed report here on Friday but don't know if I could get it done by Monday at 4 pm and it might mean I'd have to go to file report and then go back to see Magistrate. I keep remembering my sponsor telling me "If it is for my comfort, then do it."
The benefit of charging him there means he wouldn't get back here to his playground. Plus there are several decent shelters and a couple of halfway houses there. We have nothing.
As for the suspension of the license, it will only complicate matters should he desire to return to recovery. I'm almost to the point of selling the car and saying if you want recovery, get a job near wherever you are and I'll buy you a bike, bus pass, etc. I believe it will be a long time before I want him to drive a vehicle I own.
I'm going to wait a couple of days but believe I should cancel his cell phone and absorb the $350 early termination fee.
I'm exhausted today, physically, emotionally and mentally. I get up a while and then crawl back in the bed.
Hope this made some sense. I feel your prayers...
I need to make some decisions. My brain is churning so I'm going to write it out. Any suggestions welcomed.
He is still in jail. Hearing is Monday at 4pm. Judge can decide to release him without bail.
Charges of public intoxication, disorderly conduct and attempting to allude. None have much jail times. Only fines.
If I charge him with unauthorized use of a vehicle, it can carry 1-12 months in jail. We all know it will be WAY on the short side of that. Plus his drivers license will be automatically suspended for probably 3 months. If I charge him here, they may not go get him due to price of gas. I don't know if that means he would have a warrant out until they happen to find him closer or what? The jail there said the last thing they would do prior to releasing him is look for warrants. Then they asked me if this police dept would come get him. Sounds like he would walk if they wouldn't.
If he comes back here Monday or Tuesday, he would see the judge here Tuesday night. His biggest old playmate will be in court. difficult child was supposed to testify for this idiot but I got DA to decline to call him as he is an unreliable witness.
I think I could go charge him there (90 miles away) even though I filed report here on Friday but don't know if I could get it done by Monday at 4 pm and it might mean I'd have to go to file report and then go back to see Magistrate. I keep remembering my sponsor telling me "If it is for my comfort, then do it."
The benefit of charging him there means he wouldn't get back here to his playground. Plus there are several decent shelters and a couple of halfway houses there. We have nothing.
As for the suspension of the license, it will only complicate matters should he desire to return to recovery. I'm almost to the point of selling the car and saying if you want recovery, get a job near wherever you are and I'll buy you a bike, bus pass, etc. I believe it will be a long time before I want him to drive a vehicle I own.
I'm going to wait a couple of days but believe I should cancel his cell phone and absorb the $350 early termination fee.
I'm exhausted today, physically, emotionally and mentally. I get up a while and then crawl back in the bed.
Hope this made some sense. I feel your prayers...