lovemysons
Well-Known Member
Hi all,
It's been awhile since I've posted an update on difficult child.
As you all may remember we gave difficult child a timeframe to leave our home and he did leave on the expected date.
Since then he has lived in motels and more recently is actually living at his mother in law's home with his wife and children.
He quit his job with his brother a few weeks ago and has been working for a similar company that knew difficult child from work with his brother.
Last Friday, difficult child bottomed out a company van in another town where he had been working the week. His brother was in the office at fellow company and told them if it were him he would leave difficult child there.
The company flew difficult child back home and difficult child has been very upset about his brother's comments...understandably. But, husband and I have advised him NOT to bring up personal problems at work. I don't think difficult child is listening though...
Last night, difficult child told me that a few nights ago he dropped off building plans in another town and came back home to mother in law's where his wife accused him of drinking or drugging. He said that he was not. He also said he is about to be homeless because he doesn't get a check until Friday and then went on to tell me that he texted someone in charge from work and told them that he may need to put in his 2 weeks notice as he may be homeless soon.
I got pretty upset with him for telling someone from work that he may be homeless soon and that he may need to put in 2 weeks notice. I told him that was rediculous. I also reminded him of what his dad says...Paraphrasing, "Don't **** where you eat".
When I told him that it sounds like he is putting himself back in prison he told me "Well at least there I have 3 squares and sober living". I told him he was Better than That! And then, I was so upset I had to get off the phone.
I am anxious. Feeling disturbed. Feeling like I have run out of the right words to say to difficult child. Like I have said all there is to say...and done all there is to do.
Honestly, I am just tired of it all.
I don't know what will happen next but it does appear that difficult child is sabotaging his living conditions and job...next stop...may be prison again.
So sad.
LMS
It's been awhile since I've posted an update on difficult child.
As you all may remember we gave difficult child a timeframe to leave our home and he did leave on the expected date.
Since then he has lived in motels and more recently is actually living at his mother in law's home with his wife and children.
He quit his job with his brother a few weeks ago and has been working for a similar company that knew difficult child from work with his brother.
Last Friday, difficult child bottomed out a company van in another town where he had been working the week. His brother was in the office at fellow company and told them if it were him he would leave difficult child there.
The company flew difficult child back home and difficult child has been very upset about his brother's comments...understandably. But, husband and I have advised him NOT to bring up personal problems at work. I don't think difficult child is listening though...
Last night, difficult child told me that a few nights ago he dropped off building plans in another town and came back home to mother in law's where his wife accused him of drinking or drugging. He said that he was not. He also said he is about to be homeless because he doesn't get a check until Friday and then went on to tell me that he texted someone in charge from work and told them that he may need to put in his 2 weeks notice as he may be homeless soon.
I got pretty upset with him for telling someone from work that he may be homeless soon and that he may need to put in 2 weeks notice. I told him that was rediculous. I also reminded him of what his dad says...Paraphrasing, "Don't **** where you eat".
When I told him that it sounds like he is putting himself back in prison he told me "Well at least there I have 3 squares and sober living". I told him he was Better than That! And then, I was so upset I had to get off the phone.
I am anxious. Feeling disturbed. Feeling like I have run out of the right words to say to difficult child. Like I have said all there is to say...and done all there is to do.
Honestly, I am just tired of it all.
I don't know what will happen next but it does appear that difficult child is sabotaging his living conditions and job...next stop...may be prison again.
So sad.
LMS