Today for psychiatrist visit, I wrote on the questionnaire about our incident on Tuesday coming home from football camp. difficult child wanted window down, I said no because we have a/c. This turned into a unacceptable distraction in my driving so when we arrived at the street we lived on, I parked the car and walked home (about 1/4 mile). Ugly scene at home in which husband called in the middle of. I gave the phone to difficult child who told his dad, "Mom is a F%@&, she made me walk five miles when I was hot and thirsty and she is cheating on you."
difficult child read what I wrote and asked, "Why are you writing this?" I replied, "Why did you say that?" I could see he was uncomfortable about talking to psychiatrist about this lying. psychiatrist said that at the beginning of the session, difficult child admitted that he struggles with lying. The entire session was psychiatrist telling difficult child that he can not continue lying. That difficult child must listen to those in authority and not argue about it. Before I entered, they talked about how destructive the lie about me cheating is to the family and no matter how angry you are, you do not lie. (Actually the lie about making him walk 5 miles while I followed in the van and made fun of him because I was in a/c would be viewed as child abuse. If someone overheard that one and didn't know the truth so decided to call CPS on me, that would be a hassle.)
difficult child was very solemn when we left. I could see he was upset and did my best to keep quiet (I wanted so much to rescue him from his feelings but knew that he had to own those thoughts and realize what is going on when he lies). After about 20 minutes he said, "psychiatrist made it sound like it will be really hard work." I just said, "Well, how big of a habit has it become to lie? You need to start work on breaking that habit before it gets bigger."
We then went to Walmart (good to know big city stores still have shorts), ate at IHOP, and went to the zoo.
difficult child read what I wrote and asked, "Why are you writing this?" I replied, "Why did you say that?" I could see he was uncomfortable about talking to psychiatrist about this lying. psychiatrist said that at the beginning of the session, difficult child admitted that he struggles with lying. The entire session was psychiatrist telling difficult child that he can not continue lying. That difficult child must listen to those in authority and not argue about it. Before I entered, they talked about how destructive the lie about me cheating is to the family and no matter how angry you are, you do not lie. (Actually the lie about making him walk 5 miles while I followed in the van and made fun of him because I was in a/c would be viewed as child abuse. If someone overheard that one and didn't know the truth so decided to call CPS on me, that would be a hassle.)
difficult child was very solemn when we left. I could see he was upset and did my best to keep quiet (I wanted so much to rescue him from his feelings but knew that he had to own those thoughts and realize what is going on when he lies). After about 20 minutes he said, "psychiatrist made it sound like it will be really hard work." I just said, "Well, how big of a habit has it become to lie? You need to start work on breaking that habit before it gets bigger."
We then went to Walmart (good to know big city stores still have shorts), ate at IHOP, and went to the zoo.