I know there is not a lot of traffic here on the weekends, but I need help asap. I have just discovered our 9 year old neighbor's ipod in difficult child's bedroom. I knew that the ipod was missing, but did not search for it until a phone conversation between neighbor's mother and me. Neighbor "Jack" and difficult child are bff. difficult child has been jealous of the ipod for months; it has caused a number of major meltdowns in our house. I cannot afford/will not buy an ipod for difficult child. So, he took his bff's ipod. Earlier this week difficult child magically "found" $15 in his bedroom. He said it came from his dad. Hmmmm... How would you handle this!? I HATE the fact that difficult child is now stealing and lying. (Well, he's always stolen and lied, but just from me!) On the phone neighbor's mom was suggesting that difficult child swiped the ipod accidentally -- "Maybe it was accidentally caught up in the magazines difficult child borrowed from Jack..." That's an easy out. I think difficult child has to take the ipod back, confess, apologize and get a consequence from me. The consequence given by Jack and family I cannot guess. Should I make difficult child excuses for him? Sigh.