LookingForPeace
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I know many of you have "been there". I'm shocked and venting. I'm angry and sad. We have tried for years to help our son be successful. He continues to play the victim. He constantly lies and manipulates. Having a conversation with him is painful.
He is 19yo (almost 20). We are trying to stay firm with our decision to no longer enable him. At age 16 we sent him to a boarding school because we could no longer control him, he would run away, steal, lie, etc.
He has been living with his girlfriend and her family the past year. They kicked him out last week because he has chosen to be out of work since October and are tired of supporting him. According to the Mom, he sits in his girlfriend's bedroom all day playing video games. He sabotage's every job opportunity by not showing up. We have sent him money and he spends it irresponsibly (out to eat, spotify, playstation, etc.). Now it is everyone else's fault but his own that he is homeless and he doesn't know what to do.
He lives states away. He is not allowed in our home. He will post some status on FB looking for sympathy. If he doesn't receive immediate responses then he deletes it. He's begging for money online, set up a "go fund me" for himself and has contacted old neighbors to see if he can stay with them. He only contacts us when he wants money. Otherwise we are the bad guys. We adopted him from Russia at 18mo of age. No official diagnosis, however, he shows all the signs of reactive attachment disorder, anti social personality disorder.
Thanks for listening!
He is 19yo (almost 20). We are trying to stay firm with our decision to no longer enable him. At age 16 we sent him to a boarding school because we could no longer control him, he would run away, steal, lie, etc.
He has been living with his girlfriend and her family the past year. They kicked him out last week because he has chosen to be out of work since October and are tired of supporting him. According to the Mom, he sits in his girlfriend's bedroom all day playing video games. He sabotage's every job opportunity by not showing up. We have sent him money and he spends it irresponsibly (out to eat, spotify, playstation, etc.). Now it is everyone else's fault but his own that he is homeless and he doesn't know what to do.
He lives states away. He is not allowed in our home. He will post some status on FB looking for sympathy. If he doesn't receive immediate responses then he deletes it. He's begging for money online, set up a "go fund me" for himself and has contacted old neighbors to see if he can stay with them. He only contacts us when he wants money. Otherwise we are the bad guys. We adopted him from Russia at 18mo of age. No official diagnosis, however, he shows all the signs of reactive attachment disorder, anti social personality disorder.
Thanks for listening!