hearts and roses
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Just when I thought difficult child was well on her way to becoming a easy child she does something so difficult child-ish that I suffer from PTSD from a simple email.
difficult child's car died. She had bought an old jeep and got herself into an impossible loan at 21.9% - yeah, that's not a typo!!! Then the jeep dies and so she went looking for another smallish suv type of car and chose the Nissan Rogue. Her boyfriend, E, I've sadly discovered is so darned nice that he won't interfere in any of her hairbrain schemes OR he just as difficult child-ish (which we knew already. We love him, but he's a difficult child too). So when she signed on the dotted line for this Rogue, the dealer was in a rush to have the papers signed by May 31st and kept telling her the faster we take care of the paperwork, the faster you'll be in your new car. Ugh......So, difficult child got approved for some of the money but not all of it - they originally said she would have to put down $500. Five hundred dollars would have been easier to come up with, but when she went to pick up the car, they said, "Oh we weren't able to get the tax and reggie charges wrapped up into your loan, so you need to come up with $1500"!!!! That was on Thurs and they gave difficult child till today to do so.
I just put down a deposit on her reception for next year. I have my own bills and obligations. I wouldn't co-sign the loan for her (from experience I knew that would have been a bad move for ME) and I didn't have money to loan her. I told her to go in with the $500 and tell them you'll pay them that weekly for two more weeks. At this point, the car has been registered in her name...it's her car. I'm certain the dealer would have had to just suck it up considering they were in the big rush to have the deal closed by May 31st so their books looked better for the month (I know how car dealers work).
H has no money as he's pouring money into the upper addition so we can move up there and refinish the main level by end of summer. That's that long story about mother in law and the probate. We are in the process of getting the house into our name and will likely need to take out a mortgage and we cannot risk our credit for difficult child at this time.
So, what does difficult child do? She impulsively calls her aunt (from NY on her father's side) and asks to borrow some money!! Guess how much??? $1000. First, difficult child and her boyfriend are living with his parents and barely have a pot to **** in...how the heck are they going to be able to pay that money back?????? I'm so furious with her for doing this for so many reasons. Second, I no longer am in contact with this aunt because she uses every opportunity to put me down, disapprove of my now grown daughters, my re-marriage, everything. She's bitter and I cut ties with her last year for good. easy child and difficult child don't even like her very much because of derogatory things she says about me and H in their presence. Third, she's the type to lord this over difficult child forever now and even lord it over exh and me. And fourth, this is the aunt who I KNOW will be a giant pain in the butt as we get closer to difficult child's wedding...she will try and butt in and take over the shower, etc., so it's "done the right way, our way". Ugh.
And the kicker?? She wants me to leave my work for three hours today to drive and hour and a half away to meet up with aunt's daughter to collect the money...as if.
I know I've got to let this go - this is difficult child's stuff, not mine, but I am just so damned furious I am seeing red!!!
difficult child's car died. She had bought an old jeep and got herself into an impossible loan at 21.9% - yeah, that's not a typo!!! Then the jeep dies and so she went looking for another smallish suv type of car and chose the Nissan Rogue. Her boyfriend, E, I've sadly discovered is so darned nice that he won't interfere in any of her hairbrain schemes OR he just as difficult child-ish (which we knew already. We love him, but he's a difficult child too). So when she signed on the dotted line for this Rogue, the dealer was in a rush to have the papers signed by May 31st and kept telling her the faster we take care of the paperwork, the faster you'll be in your new car. Ugh......So, difficult child got approved for some of the money but not all of it - they originally said she would have to put down $500. Five hundred dollars would have been easier to come up with, but when she went to pick up the car, they said, "Oh we weren't able to get the tax and reggie charges wrapped up into your loan, so you need to come up with $1500"!!!! That was on Thurs and they gave difficult child till today to do so.
I just put down a deposit on her reception for next year. I have my own bills and obligations. I wouldn't co-sign the loan for her (from experience I knew that would have been a bad move for ME) and I didn't have money to loan her. I told her to go in with the $500 and tell them you'll pay them that weekly for two more weeks. At this point, the car has been registered in her name...it's her car. I'm certain the dealer would have had to just suck it up considering they were in the big rush to have the deal closed by May 31st so their books looked better for the month (I know how car dealers work).
H has no money as he's pouring money into the upper addition so we can move up there and refinish the main level by end of summer. That's that long story about mother in law and the probate. We are in the process of getting the house into our name and will likely need to take out a mortgage and we cannot risk our credit for difficult child at this time.
So, what does difficult child do? She impulsively calls her aunt (from NY on her father's side) and asks to borrow some money!! Guess how much??? $1000. First, difficult child and her boyfriend are living with his parents and barely have a pot to **** in...how the heck are they going to be able to pay that money back?????? I'm so furious with her for doing this for so many reasons. Second, I no longer am in contact with this aunt because she uses every opportunity to put me down, disapprove of my now grown daughters, my re-marriage, everything. She's bitter and I cut ties with her last year for good. easy child and difficult child don't even like her very much because of derogatory things she says about me and H in their presence. Third, she's the type to lord this over difficult child forever now and even lord it over exh and me. And fourth, this is the aunt who I KNOW will be a giant pain in the butt as we get closer to difficult child's wedding...she will try and butt in and take over the shower, etc., so it's "done the right way, our way". Ugh.
And the kicker?? She wants me to leave my work for three hours today to drive and hour and a half away to meet up with aunt's daughter to collect the money...as if.
I know I've got to let this go - this is difficult child's stuff, not mine, but I am just so damned furious I am seeing red!!!
