DammitJanet
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I swear I dont know why I try.
I try to be a good grandma and a good mom and mother in law but I am thwarted at every turn.
At least this time I had the common sense god gave an ant to get a motel to for the first two days of this visit so we didnt have to be subjected to the madness 24/7. Obviously I am talking about we are in VA visiting Jamie and his family. Billie and Hailie havent changed a lick. Billie wants to stick her nose in where it doesnt belong by questioning my son Billy thinking he is paying for me to put my new AC into my home. He didnt, I did but even if he had, what damn business is it of hers? Then she wanted to know why I had put my money in an account with Billy instead of with them? Uhhh. Because I wanted to do it that way. I actually trust Billy more too.
None of this is any of her or Jamie's business. My finances are my business. If I want to buy stock in purple monkeys...so be it.
Then there is Hailie. Lord have mercy. I have never seen a child so absolutely evil and mean. Seriously. She isnt just impulsive or hyper, she is mean and deliberately mean. I bought her several things and on purpose she systematically looked at me and broke them while staring at me with a smile on her face. One of them was a 30 dollar Disney princess nightgown and she asked her mother if she had already taken the tags off. When told yes, she said good, then she deliberately ripped the nightgown into pieces so it couldnt be worn or taken back. The other thing she broke was a Tangled doll figure which she took a knife to the body and then pulled all the hair out .
I got fed up with her several times on Friday because she was pulling her crying for attention and Billie wasnt disciplining her at all but was just complaining and yelling at her. After about half an hour of that, I grabbed the kid, stuck her in a time out chair and told her she was in time out for whatever it was, I cant remember what the first one was for but she was screaming and crying because no one has ever done a proper time out with her. Well this one didnt end up being a proper time out either thanks to her mother.
I told Hailie she was in time out for X, she had to stay there for 4 minutes and she had to stop crying in order to come out. Then I sat her in the chair. Well, I went out to smoke a cig but I could still hear Hailie and her mom. Oh poor Hailie, she cried and she wailed. Billie wouldnt shut up. She kept talking to her, threatening her, blah blah.
I go back in. I told them both. Hailie, you will stay there until you can do a proper time out which means 4 minutes with no crying and if that means you sit there forever, so be it. I have the time and I have done this before. You arent my first merry go round. I can outlast you. Billy starts talking to her, handing her a drink, I grabbed the drink and said NO...Ignore her....no talking. Dont look at her. After about 10 minutes Billie caved and went and got her. I just looked at her disgusted...lol.
Well, later that night, about 7 or so, Hailie started throwing VHS tapes all over the room. Billie screams Hailie stop throwing those tapes. Hailie continues. Hailie you better not step on them, you will break them. One foot goes down ever so deliberately. Then the next foot. I look at Billie. Nothing. Then...Hailie...Pick up those tapes! Hailie plops her butt on the floor. Then she made her vital mistake. She looked at me under her bangs and smirked at me with this evil little smile that just said....see...I can do what I want and no one will stop me even you!
I moved faster than even I thought was possible! I flew across that floor and grabbed all those tapes up as she was trying to pick them up and told her she had lost her chance to pick them up when she had defied her mom over and over again, she was going into time out and not in the living room where she could see her mom. She went into the boring dining room and I told her if I so much if I heard one peep out of her the time out was going to start all over again., Then I grabbed her up under her arms and marched her out of the room! Billie just sat there in shocked silence....lol.
Hailie did the time out without a peep. I didnt quite get the best apology out of her but it was close. However, Billie coddled her afterwards which really shouldnt have happened. She did wrong and should have been told...You were wrong, you got punished, its over, now go play. Not, oh you poor baby, I know, its so bad, Im so sorry, hugs, kissy kissy., Ugh.
I try to be a good grandma and a good mom and mother in law but I am thwarted at every turn.
At least this time I had the common sense god gave an ant to get a motel to for the first two days of this visit so we didnt have to be subjected to the madness 24/7. Obviously I am talking about we are in VA visiting Jamie and his family. Billie and Hailie havent changed a lick. Billie wants to stick her nose in where it doesnt belong by questioning my son Billy thinking he is paying for me to put my new AC into my home. He didnt, I did but even if he had, what damn business is it of hers? Then she wanted to know why I had put my money in an account with Billy instead of with them? Uhhh. Because I wanted to do it that way. I actually trust Billy more too.
None of this is any of her or Jamie's business. My finances are my business. If I want to buy stock in purple monkeys...so be it.
Then there is Hailie. Lord have mercy. I have never seen a child so absolutely evil and mean. Seriously. She isnt just impulsive or hyper, she is mean and deliberately mean. I bought her several things and on purpose she systematically looked at me and broke them while staring at me with a smile on her face. One of them was a 30 dollar Disney princess nightgown and she asked her mother if she had already taken the tags off. When told yes, she said good, then she deliberately ripped the nightgown into pieces so it couldnt be worn or taken back. The other thing she broke was a Tangled doll figure which she took a knife to the body and then pulled all the hair out .
I got fed up with her several times on Friday because she was pulling her crying for attention and Billie wasnt disciplining her at all but was just complaining and yelling at her. After about half an hour of that, I grabbed the kid, stuck her in a time out chair and told her she was in time out for whatever it was, I cant remember what the first one was for but she was screaming and crying because no one has ever done a proper time out with her. Well this one didnt end up being a proper time out either thanks to her mother.
I told Hailie she was in time out for X, she had to stay there for 4 minutes and she had to stop crying in order to come out. Then I sat her in the chair. Well, I went out to smoke a cig but I could still hear Hailie and her mom. Oh poor Hailie, she cried and she wailed. Billie wouldnt shut up. She kept talking to her, threatening her, blah blah.
I go back in. I told them both. Hailie, you will stay there until you can do a proper time out which means 4 minutes with no crying and if that means you sit there forever, so be it. I have the time and I have done this before. You arent my first merry go round. I can outlast you. Billy starts talking to her, handing her a drink, I grabbed the drink and said NO...Ignore her....no talking. Dont look at her. After about 10 minutes Billie caved and went and got her. I just looked at her disgusted...lol.
Well, later that night, about 7 or so, Hailie started throwing VHS tapes all over the room. Billie screams Hailie stop throwing those tapes. Hailie continues. Hailie you better not step on them, you will break them. One foot goes down ever so deliberately. Then the next foot. I look at Billie. Nothing. Then...Hailie...Pick up those tapes! Hailie plops her butt on the floor. Then she made her vital mistake. She looked at me under her bangs and smirked at me with this evil little smile that just said....see...I can do what I want and no one will stop me even you!
I moved faster than even I thought was possible! I flew across that floor and grabbed all those tapes up as she was trying to pick them up and told her she had lost her chance to pick them up when she had defied her mom over and over again, she was going into time out and not in the living room where she could see her mom. She went into the boring dining room and I told her if I so much if I heard one peep out of her the time out was going to start all over again., Then I grabbed her up under her arms and marched her out of the room! Billie just sat there in shocked silence....lol.
Hailie did the time out without a peep. I didnt quite get the best apology out of her but it was close. However, Billie coddled her afterwards which really shouldnt have happened. She did wrong and should have been told...You were wrong, you got punished, its over, now go play. Not, oh you poor baby, I know, its so bad, Im so sorry, hugs, kissy kissy., Ugh.