lovemysons
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Oh goodness as if I didn't have enough to worry about already with my "young difficult child" headed off to prison.
Now my 4 yr old grandson (just turned 4 Nov 7th) is saying some rather disturbing things.
daughter in law and I were together last night and she told me that grandson, after getting spanked the other day, told her...
"I'm just gonna kill myself."
Then, she said to him, "We don't talk that way" and he said, "Then I'm gonna throw myself in the trash cause I'm garbage."
Geez Louise, what 4 yr old says this kind of thing?
A bit of history...Grandson has been exposed to young difficult child's emotional manipulation likely. Young difficult child has "tried" to commit suicide at least 3 times that I can think of over the last 3 or so years. Young difficult child is a VERY sensitive person and has always pulled at my heart strings through intense emotionalism, if you will.
One time last year when grandson spent the night with husband and I... I had him going to sleep in our bed...He did NOT want to sleep in same bed with grandpa! Well, he started telling me (while crying) that he had no friends and that no one loved him. I don't think I handled it well...as I tried to talk him down from this kind of thinking by reminding him of the little friends he does have and all of the family members I listed that do love him very much.
I have seen him break into tears and "feel sorry for himself" with his other grandma. She allows it. Since we have raised grandson's father (young difficult child) and are very aware of emotional manipulation we don't allow grandson to feel sorry for himself in this way. Other grandmother will just scoop him up and allow him to go on and on when he doesn't get his way...Like having to share a toy with his little sister then crying when I told him this was little sisters new birthday present and they must share it. He just turned to other grandma and through himself at her crying about the situation.
So...I am concerned.
daughter in law asked if she needs to get therapy for grandson. And honestly, I don't know.
What do you think?
LMS
Now my 4 yr old grandson (just turned 4 Nov 7th) is saying some rather disturbing things.
daughter in law and I were together last night and she told me that grandson, after getting spanked the other day, told her...
"I'm just gonna kill myself."
Then, she said to him, "We don't talk that way" and he said, "Then I'm gonna throw myself in the trash cause I'm garbage."
Geez Louise, what 4 yr old says this kind of thing?
A bit of history...Grandson has been exposed to young difficult child's emotional manipulation likely. Young difficult child has "tried" to commit suicide at least 3 times that I can think of over the last 3 or so years. Young difficult child is a VERY sensitive person and has always pulled at my heart strings through intense emotionalism, if you will.
One time last year when grandson spent the night with husband and I... I had him going to sleep in our bed...He did NOT want to sleep in same bed with grandpa! Well, he started telling me (while crying) that he had no friends and that no one loved him. I don't think I handled it well...as I tried to talk him down from this kind of thinking by reminding him of the little friends he does have and all of the family members I listed that do love him very much.
I have seen him break into tears and "feel sorry for himself" with his other grandma. She allows it. Since we have raised grandson's father (young difficult child) and are very aware of emotional manipulation we don't allow grandson to feel sorry for himself in this way. Other grandmother will just scoop him up and allow him to go on and on when he doesn't get his way...Like having to share a toy with his little sister then crying when I told him this was little sisters new birthday present and they must share it. He just turned to other grandma and through himself at her crying about the situation.
So...I am concerned.
daughter in law asked if she needs to get therapy for grandson. And honestly, I don't know.
What do you think?
LMS