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As you can see I post time to time but am always around lurking just to feel not so all alone in having a difficult child! difficult child has no diagnosis but we have been seeing a psychologist ( a few different ones) and then family counselor on and off for over 4 yrs now. None of it helpful in the least. A waste of thousands of dollars in co-pays if you ask me. It's probably been a year that we've been to anyone simply because difficult child would not go or would not participate when we got there. Any suggestion any specialist ever had did not work and believe me, husband and I were united in adhearing to them at home..reward charts, behavior charts, punishments, etc... There are no real problems at school, once in a while a teacher would say he talks too much or gets upset easily if he is corrected on something, but he stays in control so mainly only with us does he lose it. And his behavioral/emotional issues come out when frustrated in sports so he'd been benched, thrown off a team for a while, etc...
difficult child is a smart kid- in 6th grade, high honors, no problems doing homework. He has few friends but gets along fine with them. Social with his teammates. Everyone tells me he is a great kid.....haha, they don't live with him. Living with him is our families little nightmare and we can't escape!
difficult child wants what he wants when he wants it. He will not give in or change his focus. Since he does not always get his way, he gets verbally abusive and has tantrums. He rarely gets physical but has on occasion. He has little tolerance for his younger brother ( easy child) because he says he annoys him ( yes he is 6 and to me it is typical little sibling stuff) so he bullies him around and becomes even more mean and hateful if husband or I intervene. Everything has to be his way. Nothing is his fault. We rarely go anywhere or do anything as a family because of difficult child. I hate it and hate the way he thinks he runs the house and treats us all, especially easy child. I'd love to call the cops but what can they do about emotional/verbal abuse or verbal bullying?
Yet, difficult child can also be a great kid. He seems to go in cycles with these moods or behaviors. Sometimes we have days or weeks when things are good and other times a few problems a day. Lately we are in a bad few days so this is the reason for my post.
When I first found this board, a neuropsychologist. evaluation was suggested. I made an appointment. only to find out my lovely insurance does not cover it and we honestly can't afford it out of pocket. Do you think if we make an appointment. with a child psychiatrist it may offer us some help? I don't know what else to do. easy child even wishes difficult child would leave and not come back. He begged me to not pick difficult child up from practice the other day. None of us should have to live with how difficult child treats us!! Psychiatry is covered by my insurance but before I take on this fight with difficult child and possible medications, I wanted to ask you guys. Thanks for your input.
By the way, difficult child is our bio ds. We have no history of any mental health issues on either side of the family. I had a normal preg. and delivery with difficult child but he's been a difficult child since birth!!
Jan
As you can see I post time to time but am always around lurking just to feel not so all alone in having a difficult child! difficult child has no diagnosis but we have been seeing a psychologist ( a few different ones) and then family counselor on and off for over 4 yrs now. None of it helpful in the least. A waste of thousands of dollars in co-pays if you ask me. It's probably been a year that we've been to anyone simply because difficult child would not go or would not participate when we got there. Any suggestion any specialist ever had did not work and believe me, husband and I were united in adhearing to them at home..reward charts, behavior charts, punishments, etc... There are no real problems at school, once in a while a teacher would say he talks too much or gets upset easily if he is corrected on something, but he stays in control so mainly only with us does he lose it. And his behavioral/emotional issues come out when frustrated in sports so he'd been benched, thrown off a team for a while, etc...
difficult child is a smart kid- in 6th grade, high honors, no problems doing homework. He has few friends but gets along fine with them. Social with his teammates. Everyone tells me he is a great kid.....haha, they don't live with him. Living with him is our families little nightmare and we can't escape!
difficult child wants what he wants when he wants it. He will not give in or change his focus. Since he does not always get his way, he gets verbally abusive and has tantrums. He rarely gets physical but has on occasion. He has little tolerance for his younger brother ( easy child) because he says he annoys him ( yes he is 6 and to me it is typical little sibling stuff) so he bullies him around and becomes even more mean and hateful if husband or I intervene. Everything has to be his way. Nothing is his fault. We rarely go anywhere or do anything as a family because of difficult child. I hate it and hate the way he thinks he runs the house and treats us all, especially easy child. I'd love to call the cops but what can they do about emotional/verbal abuse or verbal bullying?
Yet, difficult child can also be a great kid. He seems to go in cycles with these moods or behaviors. Sometimes we have days or weeks when things are good and other times a few problems a day. Lately we are in a bad few days so this is the reason for my post.
When I first found this board, a neuropsychologist. evaluation was suggested. I made an appointment. only to find out my lovely insurance does not cover it and we honestly can't afford it out of pocket. Do you think if we make an appointment. with a child psychiatrist it may offer us some help? I don't know what else to do. easy child even wishes difficult child would leave and not come back. He begged me to not pick difficult child up from practice the other day. None of us should have to live with how difficult child treats us!! Psychiatry is covered by my insurance but before I take on this fight with difficult child and possible medications, I wanted to ask you guys. Thanks for your input.
By the way, difficult child is our bio ds. We have no history of any mental health issues on either side of the family. I had a normal preg. and delivery with difficult child but he's been a difficult child since birth!!
Jan