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I've noticed a trend lately with manster's friends. All the kids he considers "friends" are the ones I see headed for trouble already. The nicer more goofy kids like him (I would never tell him this lol) don't interest him. He is attracted to the "bad boys". I saw this in preschool daycare when he was 5. All I ever heard was what a shy kid he was for the longest time. Then all of a sudden he paried up with a trouble maker and he started getting in trouble too. One time he and this other boy picked at a tear in the school bus upholstry until they were picking out the stuffing! Another time he got on the wrong school bus when they were leaving a field trip because he wasn't listening to the teachers. That last year of daycare/preschool I literally ducked when I went in to pick him up so no one would see me lol.
I'm just glad I still have some control over his friends. His girlfriends are all really good kids and they're the only ones he plays with outside of school right now thank goodness. Today he hung out with two girls and they sort of ganged up on him as is the usual dynamic when three get together (one man out). I was proud of him for applying the skills they're learning in school today about persuasive arguments. He handed the one girl a letter stating the many reasons he couldn't be their friend any more. #1 you called me "zit boy" all during recess (he got his first zit, told my friend he was now officially a man lol) #2 you drew me as being ugly on the WI, #3 ,etc. etc. The girl's mom who was watching them saw the letter and made the girl call and apologize. He accepted it graciously.
Just for today I'm going to NOT look too far into the future! I won't worry that he already talks about wanting tatoos and piercings or any of that stuff. Just for today I will celebrate that he's at grade level without behavior issues and gets to participate in the student lead Parent Teacher Open House conferences.
On an unrelated topic, our therapist wants manster to try stims due to the issues and behaviors we're working on. She feels that it would benefit him but I'm not sure. I always figured I'd hold out on that one due to his anxiety and now tics but I guess I'm mulling it over.
Thanks for "listening". I just needed to talk/type tonight.
ML
I'm just glad I still have some control over his friends. His girlfriends are all really good kids and they're the only ones he plays with outside of school right now thank goodness. Today he hung out with two girls and they sort of ganged up on him as is the usual dynamic when three get together (one man out). I was proud of him for applying the skills they're learning in school today about persuasive arguments. He handed the one girl a letter stating the many reasons he couldn't be their friend any more. #1 you called me "zit boy" all during recess (he got his first zit, told my friend he was now officially a man lol) #2 you drew me as being ugly on the WI, #3 ,etc. etc. The girl's mom who was watching them saw the letter and made the girl call and apologize. He accepted it graciously.
Just for today I'm going to NOT look too far into the future! I won't worry that he already talks about wanting tatoos and piercings or any of that stuff. Just for today I will celebrate that he's at grade level without behavior issues and gets to participate in the student lead Parent Teacher Open House conferences.
On an unrelated topic, our therapist wants manster to try stims due to the issues and behaviors we're working on. She feels that it would benefit him but I'm not sure. I always figured I'd hold out on that one due to his anxiety and now tics but I guess I'm mulling it over.
Thanks for "listening". I just needed to talk/type tonight.
ML
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