PatriotsGirl
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I can't believe it. She is almost done! I talked to her last night and she is now officially on EVERY weekend pass!!! Not that she can come home every weekend - she would have to take time off of work for that, but she has made it to that point.
They are talking to her about joining staff at a later point, but from what she heard from someone else that has recently joined staff, they don't pay enough for her to do that. She would make more at her job at McDonald's - which seems weird to me, so I am not sure if there is some miscommunication to me.
You can tell she is getting anxious over what is next. husband and I have also been discussing it. Her monthly amount that she is paying doesn't change once she finishes the program. It is still 600 per month and of course the 140 per month for daycare (plus they take 10% of her gross paycheck for her tithe to the church). We are not seeing how she is going to be able to save up for a car or how she would ever get ahead enough to leave there. There is no room in the graduate houses right now because no one is leaving (because they are not able to afford to). That means she would have to stay in the dorm she is in and if she does, she does not get the privileges that graduates get. It would be exactly like still being in the program, which kind of stinks after almost a year now. The only people who leave either go back home to their parents, or to a husband if they have one. I have to admit I have seriously thought about her coming back home to get on her feet but I do NOT want to jeopardize her sobriety. I have prayed about it and have said if it is meant to be, then it will be placed on husband's mind and heart that she come back home. If it isn't, then she is meant to stay there. I can tell he is seriously mulling it over but I will not force a decision. I don't even know if it is something she would want. Again, just thoughts going through my head...we have almost two more months before she completes. But amazing that we would even consider living with her again but that is just testimony to how much she has grown and how changed she is!
She will be home for Thanksgiving week. She graduates November 22nd and they get a week off for graduation. I will be able to pick them up on Sunday and they will be here for a full week. I guess that will be a test...lol. I was planning on picking up Connor for Halloween to take him trick or treating but she has expressed that she really doesn't want Connor to participate in that. As his mother I need to respect her wishes and instead will let him stay at the ministry with her that weekend. He won't know he is missing a thing and husband and I will go out instead.
I am going to pick them up this afternoon for the weekend. She and I are going to go see the movie War Room tomorrow morning and we will go to church Sunday morning but other than that, it will be a chilly rainy weekend so lots of cuddling and watching children's movies.
So still - all good news. Don't ever give up hope - it CAN happen!!!! As long as there is life, there IS hope!!
They are talking to her about joining staff at a later point, but from what she heard from someone else that has recently joined staff, they don't pay enough for her to do that. She would make more at her job at McDonald's - which seems weird to me, so I am not sure if there is some miscommunication to me.
You can tell she is getting anxious over what is next. husband and I have also been discussing it. Her monthly amount that she is paying doesn't change once she finishes the program. It is still 600 per month and of course the 140 per month for daycare (plus they take 10% of her gross paycheck for her tithe to the church). We are not seeing how she is going to be able to save up for a car or how she would ever get ahead enough to leave there. There is no room in the graduate houses right now because no one is leaving (because they are not able to afford to). That means she would have to stay in the dorm she is in and if she does, she does not get the privileges that graduates get. It would be exactly like still being in the program, which kind of stinks after almost a year now. The only people who leave either go back home to their parents, or to a husband if they have one. I have to admit I have seriously thought about her coming back home to get on her feet but I do NOT want to jeopardize her sobriety. I have prayed about it and have said if it is meant to be, then it will be placed on husband's mind and heart that she come back home. If it isn't, then she is meant to stay there. I can tell he is seriously mulling it over but I will not force a decision. I don't even know if it is something she would want. Again, just thoughts going through my head...we have almost two more months before she completes. But amazing that we would even consider living with her again but that is just testimony to how much she has grown and how changed she is!
She will be home for Thanksgiving week. She graduates November 22nd and they get a week off for graduation. I will be able to pick them up on Sunday and they will be here for a full week. I guess that will be a test...lol. I was planning on picking up Connor for Halloween to take him trick or treating but she has expressed that she really doesn't want Connor to participate in that. As his mother I need to respect her wishes and instead will let him stay at the ministry with her that weekend. He won't know he is missing a thing and husband and I will go out instead.
I am going to pick them up this afternoon for the weekend. She and I are going to go see the movie War Room tomorrow morning and we will go to church Sunday morning but other than that, it will be a chilly rainy weekend so lots of cuddling and watching children's movies.
So still - all good news. Don't ever give up hope - it CAN happen!!!! As long as there is life, there IS hope!!