KTMom91
Well-Known Member
I had carpal tunnel surgery last Friday on my right hand. I have trouble taking care of even the basics, because I am NOT left handed, and I've twisted my wrist in strange ways trying to take care of things (like putting on pants) and can feel the stitches pull. Ow.
I hurt. I'm frustrated. I feel helpless. I can barely feed myself or brush my teeth, and I cannot comb my hair or refill my iced tea. I'm not sleeping well, so I'm tired. It hurts to type, to hold a book, even to talk on the phone.
Hubby has been quite wounded the past few days because I don't appreciate how hard he works, and then he gets home and has to do all these things at home, too. He has to hook up the dishwasher. He has to clean the litter boxes and the bunny hutch. He can't find socks, and he would just like a little cooperation and acknowledgement.
OK...I get that he's working 12 hour days. I do. But I am physically unable to do much of anything right now. Three days of argument and fuss, and the tonight, I'd just finished talking to him (Miss KT and I were at Target) , and he called again while we were walking through the store. It is extremely difficult for me to get to my cell phone, and of course, I missed the call. Frustrated me, after trying to dig my phone out, so after I finally got it out of my purse, and listened to the message, I called him back, irritated because I'd just hung up with him, and proceeded to explain the difficulties involved in getting to the darn phone, in a cranky tone, I'm sure. He is now wounded again. I did not appreciate the sacrifice he made in giving up his movie ticket to get blueberries for me. I do not understand his point of view. I am not being supportive of his feelings. He came home and promptly left again.
I feel like we're just going around in circles with this; he seems to think I should be doing more than I am, I think he is looking only at how he's being inconvenienced and isn't hearing how I'm doing. And I'm worried; the stitches hurt and feel like they're pulling. I'm just trying to hold out till Monday when they're supposed to come out. And speaking of support for your spouse? Miss KT took me to and from surgery, and will be taking me on Monday. I spent most of the day today in a hospital waiting room while Hubby had a "procedure." I give up.
I hurt. I'm frustrated. I feel helpless. I can barely feed myself or brush my teeth, and I cannot comb my hair or refill my iced tea. I'm not sleeping well, so I'm tired. It hurts to type, to hold a book, even to talk on the phone.
Hubby has been quite wounded the past few days because I don't appreciate how hard he works, and then he gets home and has to do all these things at home, too. He has to hook up the dishwasher. He has to clean the litter boxes and the bunny hutch. He can't find socks, and he would just like a little cooperation and acknowledgement.
OK...I get that he's working 12 hour days. I do. But I am physically unable to do much of anything right now. Three days of argument and fuss, and the tonight, I'd just finished talking to him (Miss KT and I were at Target) , and he called again while we were walking through the store. It is extremely difficult for me to get to my cell phone, and of course, I missed the call. Frustrated me, after trying to dig my phone out, so after I finally got it out of my purse, and listened to the message, I called him back, irritated because I'd just hung up with him, and proceeded to explain the difficulties involved in getting to the darn phone, in a cranky tone, I'm sure. He is now wounded again. I did not appreciate the sacrifice he made in giving up his movie ticket to get blueberries for me. I do not understand his point of view. I am not being supportive of his feelings. He came home and promptly left again.
I feel like we're just going around in circles with this; he seems to think I should be doing more than I am, I think he is looking only at how he's being inconvenienced and isn't hearing how I'm doing. And I'm worried; the stitches hurt and feel like they're pulling. I'm just trying to hold out till Monday when they're supposed to come out. And speaking of support for your spouse? Miss KT took me to and from surgery, and will be taking me on Monday. I spent most of the day today in a hospital waiting room while Hubby had a "procedure." I give up.