HELP: I don't think I'm the right one

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by therese005us, May 22, 2009.

  1. therese005us

    therese005us New Member

    Well, I don't think I'm the right one to help this little nearly 8yo I'm caring for. Yesterday was a TERRIBLE day! We were flooded in due to heavy rains and so little one was unable to go to school. So, besides worrying about what was going on outside, I tried to do some homeschooling. She was not in a compliant mood, and every time I asked her to go tot he bathroom, she collapsed in a heap. Stubborn, refusing to go. Eventually, when she did go, she wouldn't comply with the toilet procedure (i.e. feet on stool, blowing on hand, trying for 4 mins while the timer goes). Me, I lost it, and said if she wanted to behave like a baby, then she could have her nappy on and go to bed. So, I put her to bed, and two hours later after a sleep, we both felt better (I couldnt have a sleep though). She did some school work and co-operated for the rest of the afternoon. I did feel bad about resorting to crossness. However, if she was my child...... well, we wouldn't have got to that point I don't think. I don't have the right to smack her; she doesn't have an understanding of the 1,2,3, warning... Mum smacks for anything, so even if I did smack (and I mean a little warning tap) it would make things worse. I suspect that when dear little one has these ODD tantrums mum just gives up. I am tired, so very tired, has it really only been 4 weeks? She can't go home for the weekend because of the bad road situation..... next week is the last week then mum gets to try again.....
    Today was a little better, but I think I'm comign down with a cold from getting my feet wet so much.
    i'm exhausted.

    the up side is that DS has really been improving over the last couple weeks and has been HELPFUL!!
  2. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I just responded on your other post.

    But reading this I see you are feeling tired and frustrated with this child.

    Just imagine having done it for the last 8 years.

    Please, please - get this mom some supports in place and help her raise her child with the help she needs. Get the mom some help - she is probably worn out. If you have any power at all to get that family what they need to stay together, please do so.