so now i am wondering, You were not planning to tell him, because??? ( I think I know but dont want to assume) There is no way he would calm down and go better when they come if he is prepared? Would he freak if you called it a medicine hospital or something that will help him realize that there is a medication problem you need to sort through? sorry if you already explained this... How old is he? I forgot. I just went thru a milder form of this on the phone with difficult child's doctor...he wants to stay at the hospital till sunday to say goodbye to a nurse, but he wont be...do we tell him now to let him adjust or to risk tearing the place apart, or do we just wait and tell him, time to go home...and then I am kicked and hit all the way home for 40 minutes? it might not go that way, usually doesn't but I just am a little afraid of some weird thing happening now ...
That is really a huge issue, it goes on to on Monday they want him to have a shorter day to allow him to re-adjust but he might flip, so I decided to tell him several days ago and let them deal with the loss of his precious bus for a day. he actually ended up doing great (we will see THAT morning). i agree leaving from school is not a good idea. Kids are not supposed to know why my difficult child is gone and yet a kid at conferences asked me if difficult child was in a mental hospital. How the he** would he know? something is wrong with that and it could end up that difficult child is teased now. I would protect your guy from that as much as possible. I think the option of picking him up if need be and bringing him home to the ride may be better if he has to go to school to make this happen.
ok, Im no help, maybe should just delete this ...it just hits too close to home...