klmno
Active Member
Is anyone else feeling this???
I have gotten difficult child a BIG desk planner for us to use and I have a copy of the current IEP to redmark. He has school supplies organized and packed.
But, I've already received a message from his new school case manager (yesterday she called- school starts Tues.). Anyway, don't get me wrong, I'm glad that she's being pro-active. I am just cringing as I feel the weight coming back on our shoulders. IEP meetings, trying to educate a bunch of new people that a mood disorder isn't the same thing as ODD, what works with difficult child and what doesn't, and the biggest pressure- the ^%#(&^$% code of conduct that lists everything from "talk with administrator" to "in or out of school suspension" to "recommendation for expulsion" to "arrest" as a possible consequence for almost everything. Given that they chose to have difficult child arrested for tearing up his ibook last year, i am so scared that someone is going to lose patience for something with him this year (it's usually someone who later states that they don't believe he has any problem- he's just being defiant) and they will turn him over to police again. That would be all it would take at this point since the judge has him on a suspended sentence to commitment to state dept. of corrections. The judge has everything listed in his court order- even "no tardies to school". Do you have any idea how well ultimatums work with my difficult child? Lets just say they don't. Then, instead of the "bar" being in a typical place, it appears to me that it has been raised to the point of expecting perfection from him.
The school knows this and most are actually being reasonable, but there is always that one person that can't resist the urge to prove something because they think more punishment will cure him and they always end up saying "no, the judge will just slap him on the hand". ARGGHHH!!
Yes, the stress is creeping back...
I have gotten difficult child a BIG desk planner for us to use and I have a copy of the current IEP to redmark. He has school supplies organized and packed.
But, I've already received a message from his new school case manager (yesterday she called- school starts Tues.). Anyway, don't get me wrong, I'm glad that she's being pro-active. I am just cringing as I feel the weight coming back on our shoulders. IEP meetings, trying to educate a bunch of new people that a mood disorder isn't the same thing as ODD, what works with difficult child and what doesn't, and the biggest pressure- the ^%#(&^$% code of conduct that lists everything from "talk with administrator" to "in or out of school suspension" to "recommendation for expulsion" to "arrest" as a possible consequence for almost everything. Given that they chose to have difficult child arrested for tearing up his ibook last year, i am so scared that someone is going to lose patience for something with him this year (it's usually someone who later states that they don't believe he has any problem- he's just being defiant) and they will turn him over to police again. That would be all it would take at this point since the judge has him on a suspended sentence to commitment to state dept. of corrections. The judge has everything listed in his court order- even "no tardies to school". Do you have any idea how well ultimatums work with my difficult child? Lets just say they don't. Then, instead of the "bar" being in a typical place, it appears to me that it has been raised to the point of expecting perfection from him.
The school knows this and most are actually being reasonable, but there is always that one person that can't resist the urge to prove something because they think more punishment will cure him and they always end up saying "no, the judge will just slap him on the hand". ARGGHHH!!
Yes, the stress is creeping back...