JKF
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difficult child just called from his roommates cell phone. As soon as I saw the number I had that sinking feeling. When I answered difficult child immediately says "I need a favor and it's only for one night." Ughhh here we go again. Apparently, through no fault of his own of course, he and his roommate missed curfew so they're out on the street for at least tonight. difficult child asked if they could spend the night here. Nope. Sorry but no way in hell. He hung up on me but called back a little while later asking again. I firmly explained to him that he's only allowed in our home when he's following the rules and since he knowingly broke curfew tonight he'd have to deal with the consequences. He chose to break the rules and I'm not "bailing him out". Supposedly he can go back to the shelter tomorrow after he talks to his caseworker but he's out for tonight. That's their rule - make curfew or sleep on the streets. He chose the latter.
I do feel bad bc he's been doing pretty well on his medications etc. and we've been getting along but he chose to take this route instead of going back on time. I told him not to come here and if he does we will have a problem. Perhaps a night on the streets will remind him of how nice it is to have somewhere to stay? He really likes the SH and hates the streets so it's should be a no brainer right?
Did I do the right thing or am I horrible? He always tests rules on purpose to see if he can get away with breaking them. If I enable him and allow him to come here he'll think that's an easy way out the next time. I can't start this whole thing over again. I need to stay tough.. Uggggh!
I do feel bad bc he's been doing pretty well on his medications etc. and we've been getting along but he chose to take this route instead of going back on time. I told him not to come here and if he does we will have a problem. Perhaps a night on the streets will remind him of how nice it is to have somewhere to stay? He really likes the SH and hates the streets so it's should be a no brainer right?
Did I do the right thing or am I horrible? He always tests rules on purpose to see if he can get away with breaking them. If I enable him and allow him to come here he'll think that's an easy way out the next time. I can't start this whole thing over again. I need to stay tough.. Uggggh!
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