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flutterbee
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Ok. So you know how when you don't feel good you really stress over things that are normally just normal stress, but all of sudden they become huge and you can't stop thinking about it and you can't breathe?
I'm really stressing about money. In that I have none. Ok. Not none. But very little. Close enough. easy child has gone through $100 in gas in the week that he's been home. 2 fill ups. I filled up one time the entire 3 weeks he was gone. His birthday is Wednesday and my mom said she was going to get him a Best Buy gift card. I told her to put gas in the car instead. Seriously. He hasn't worked since he's been home. His first day back is Wednesday which means he won't get paid until a week from Friday. He's killing me. I'm going to end up having to take the keys, but I really don't want to have to do that. I know he'll pay me back when he gets paid, but in the meantime we need stuff, too. So, that's one thing I'm fretting about tonight.
The other -
easy child's girlfriend's mom has decided that I'm her new best friend. I really don't want to be. Really, really. And she's pretty darn close to being emotionally abusive to girlfriend if not just outright so. easy child's friends threw him a surprise party for when he came home (last Sunday the 29th) and she invited herself. It's a bunch of teenagers. The only reason I was here is because I live here. She ended up not coming and that ended up being a whole huge freaking fiasco that ended up in her daughter and my son both in tears on my son's first day home. Nice welcoming, huh.
girlfriend's mom called me today. I really didn't feel good and really didn't want to talk to her and didn't answer the phone. easy child did, though, so I had to talk to her. Sigh. And apparently I'm having a birthday party for easy child on Wednesday. Imagine my surprise.
I wasn't planning on doing anything special. He had the surprise party with about 10 or so kids (they were in and out) and he's had 2 friends here since. Dan has been here all but one night (told him tonight I was going to start charging him room and board) and B has been here at least half of the time easy child has been home. I really don't have the money to throw another party.
But girlfriend's mom called today and wanted to know what I needed her to do to help for the easy child's birthday. Then she tells me that girlfriend is baking the cake. I don't mind the cake part. Glad I found out, though, so I didn't make one, too. I told her that we do things pretty informally and easy child would probably just want tacos for dinner and it would be pretty simple. Apparently, she's invited herself for this, too. My mom is coming up. D and B have been here. I figure K will stop over and maybe W (easy child's friends). Nothing big. I wasn't planning on feeding a bunch of people (wasn't going to feed all the friends - just cake for them). I just can't afford to. I really felt terrible and told her that I would have to call her back cause I really couldn't form any kind of coherent thought to get out of this without her falling apart and being a victim in that 'nobody wants her around'.
Then, as she's hanging up, she tells me she loves me.
Maybe I'm just a terrible person, but...come on...boundaries and personal space. She's very nice to me, but I knew from the first time that I talked to her that this was going to happen with girlfriend's mom (with her being my new 'best friend') and I just haven't been able to figure out how to handle it. If I wasn't afraid of the fallout on girlfriend, it wouldn't be an issue.
I just need a good, solid, brick wall so I can slam my head against it.
Sigh....
I'm really stressing about money. In that I have none. Ok. Not none. But very little. Close enough. easy child has gone through $100 in gas in the week that he's been home. 2 fill ups. I filled up one time the entire 3 weeks he was gone. His birthday is Wednesday and my mom said she was going to get him a Best Buy gift card. I told her to put gas in the car instead. Seriously. He hasn't worked since he's been home. His first day back is Wednesday which means he won't get paid until a week from Friday. He's killing me. I'm going to end up having to take the keys, but I really don't want to have to do that. I know he'll pay me back when he gets paid, but in the meantime we need stuff, too. So, that's one thing I'm fretting about tonight.
The other -
easy child's girlfriend's mom has decided that I'm her new best friend. I really don't want to be. Really, really. And she's pretty darn close to being emotionally abusive to girlfriend if not just outright so. easy child's friends threw him a surprise party for when he came home (last Sunday the 29th) and she invited herself. It's a bunch of teenagers. The only reason I was here is because I live here. She ended up not coming and that ended up being a whole huge freaking fiasco that ended up in her daughter and my son both in tears on my son's first day home. Nice welcoming, huh.
girlfriend's mom called me today. I really didn't feel good and really didn't want to talk to her and didn't answer the phone. easy child did, though, so I had to talk to her. Sigh. And apparently I'm having a birthday party for easy child on Wednesday. Imagine my surprise.
I wasn't planning on doing anything special. He had the surprise party with about 10 or so kids (they were in and out) and he's had 2 friends here since. Dan has been here all but one night (told him tonight I was going to start charging him room and board) and B has been here at least half of the time easy child has been home. I really don't have the money to throw another party.
But girlfriend's mom called today and wanted to know what I needed her to do to help for the easy child's birthday. Then she tells me that girlfriend is baking the cake. I don't mind the cake part. Glad I found out, though, so I didn't make one, too. I told her that we do things pretty informally and easy child would probably just want tacos for dinner and it would be pretty simple. Apparently, she's invited herself for this, too. My mom is coming up. D and B have been here. I figure K will stop over and maybe W (easy child's friends). Nothing big. I wasn't planning on feeding a bunch of people (wasn't going to feed all the friends - just cake for them). I just can't afford to. I really felt terrible and told her that I would have to call her back cause I really couldn't form any kind of coherent thought to get out of this without her falling apart and being a victim in that 'nobody wants her around'.
Then, as she's hanging up, she tells me she loves me.
Maybe I'm just a terrible person, but...come on...boundaries and personal space. She's very nice to me, but I knew from the first time that I talked to her that this was going to happen with girlfriend's mom (with her being my new 'best friend') and I just haven't been able to figure out how to handle it. If I wasn't afraid of the fallout on girlfriend, it wouldn't be an issue.
I just need a good, solid, brick wall so I can slam my head against it.
Sigh....