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Bunny
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I know that some of you here have your kids in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). How long did it take for you to get them there? Did you have to jump through all kinds of hoops to get the placement?
I have to say that when difficult child is good, he can be absolutely angelic. He's a straight A student, all honors classes. His teachers all love him and I have had more than one tell me that they wish they could have a whole classroom full of difficult child. Then he comes home.
Sometimes when he doesn't get his way he's okay with it. "I understand, Mom." But then there are the other times. He tries to beat the **** out of easy child, he threatenes to beat me up. He tells me that he's going to tell the guidance counselor that I don't feed him so that the police will put me in jail. He's threatened to beat the **** out of me with a hockey stick. He's hit me, hit his brother. I don't like to leave easy child alone in a room with difficult child because difficult child will hit him or pinch him and when easy child says that difficult child did it, difficult child says that easy child is lying and. There are just points where I really don't want him here anymore because he's getting bigger and stronger (he's only an inch or two shorter than me) and we are rapidly approaching the point where I won't be able to protect myself if he gets really angry.
The therapist has seen him lose it while in his office, so that is someone who can back me up about the violent behaviors. husband does not want me to send difficult child away. He feels that difficult child is our son and that it's our job to raise him, and for the most part I agree with him, but I don't think that it's fair for the rest of the family to have to live under the threat that difficult child is going to completely lose control and hurt someone.
Afterwards, difficult child is usually remorseful. One time he was so upset about the way he had acted and the things that he said that he was throwing up. Some people tell me that the fact that he's remorseful is a good thing; that it's the kids who have no remorse that are the ones that you really have to worry about.
Pam
I have to say that when difficult child is good, he can be absolutely angelic. He's a straight A student, all honors classes. His teachers all love him and I have had more than one tell me that they wish they could have a whole classroom full of difficult child. Then he comes home.
Sometimes when he doesn't get his way he's okay with it. "I understand, Mom." But then there are the other times. He tries to beat the **** out of easy child, he threatenes to beat me up. He tells me that he's going to tell the guidance counselor that I don't feed him so that the police will put me in jail. He's threatened to beat the **** out of me with a hockey stick. He's hit me, hit his brother. I don't like to leave easy child alone in a room with difficult child because difficult child will hit him or pinch him and when easy child says that difficult child did it, difficult child says that easy child is lying and. There are just points where I really don't want him here anymore because he's getting bigger and stronger (he's only an inch or two shorter than me) and we are rapidly approaching the point where I won't be able to protect myself if he gets really angry.
The therapist has seen him lose it while in his office, so that is someone who can back me up about the violent behaviors. husband does not want me to send difficult child away. He feels that difficult child is our son and that it's our job to raise him, and for the most part I agree with him, but I don't think that it's fair for the rest of the family to have to live under the threat that difficult child is going to completely lose control and hurt someone.
Afterwards, difficult child is usually remorseful. One time he was so upset about the way he had acted and the things that he said that he was throwing up. Some people tell me that the fact that he's remorseful is a good thing; that it's the kids who have no remorse that are the ones that you really have to worry about.
Pam