My son turned 18 a couple of months ago. He's still constantly oppositional and causes crisis after crisis in my house. I've raised him since he was 2, thought I was helping him but all he's doing now is destroying my house, destroying my life, and forcing his sister to live in a war zone.
He will graduate from HS next week, by the skin of his teeth, and supposedly will attend college 9 hours away from us. I'm gladly paying for it. Being honest with myself, I don't think he's going to make it one semester. His social and academic problems have gotten slightly better over the past year, but I just don't see it happening. I hope he succeeds, but in all likelihood, he'll be thrown out of the residence halls before failing out.
My tank is empty. I'm not letting him live with me after August 17th unless he's succeeding in school and is only home on breaks. I'm not sure how to announce this to him without making it sound to him like I expect him to fail, but that's not important right now. What is important is finding a plan B.
New York State requires parents to financially support their children until the age of 23, which is absolutely ridiculous, but something I have to deal with. Has anyone put their kid in a halfway house or some other therapeutic environment? I can't pay $7 grand a month for one of those wilderness schools either, or he'd have been there for the last 8 years. I'm required to support him financially, but I'm sure not rewarding him for getting thrown out of school with a bachelor pad. I'm looking for somewhere both therapeutic and punitive. Any ideas? He doesn't have drug problems yet, miraculously, so I'd like to keep him away from that environment if possible.
Thanks.
He will graduate from HS next week, by the skin of his teeth, and supposedly will attend college 9 hours away from us. I'm gladly paying for it. Being honest with myself, I don't think he's going to make it one semester. His social and academic problems have gotten slightly better over the past year, but I just don't see it happening. I hope he succeeds, but in all likelihood, he'll be thrown out of the residence halls before failing out.
My tank is empty. I'm not letting him live with me after August 17th unless he's succeeding in school and is only home on breaks. I'm not sure how to announce this to him without making it sound to him like I expect him to fail, but that's not important right now. What is important is finding a plan B.
New York State requires parents to financially support their children until the age of 23, which is absolutely ridiculous, but something I have to deal with. Has anyone put their kid in a halfway house or some other therapeutic environment? I can't pay $7 grand a month for one of those wilderness schools either, or he'd have been there for the last 8 years. I'm required to support him financially, but I'm sure not rewarding him for getting thrown out of school with a bachelor pad. I'm looking for somewhere both therapeutic and punitive. Any ideas? He doesn't have drug problems yet, miraculously, so I'd like to keep him away from that environment if possible.
Thanks.