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husband has been talking to me more and more. He has been expressing his worry about losing his job. Many have been laid off. They cut his hours to 32 hours a week. So, like many others he filed unemployment for that day. Well...
Must briefly say this. 6 years ago - the very day I lost my job, he gets a letter in the mail from Ohio. He was being sued for Child support for the past 17 years, upto and including the birth of the child and all medical bills. Note here------17 years ago. He did not know. It was before he met me. We have been together now, 22 years. But this was 6 years ago that he got that letter. Apparently on his trip from South Carolina to Green Bay he spent the summer in Ohio. Moved on to Green Bay. We met...blah, blah. He has always worked. Never for cash so he wasn't hiding from anyone. Took the DNA test. Yep, he's the father of a now 17 year old boy. He didn't know about. I was angry because she never told him. Now she wants child support for a child he never had the chance to even meet. After many trips to Ohio, and many phone calls it was then settled on a lump sum of $10K. husband doesn't make much money at all, so this deduction weekly has really hurt us. Just recently been doing my own calculations. Should be done paying in July.
Both husband and the boy have no intention of meeting. husband is angry he never was able to be a part of his life. Now is too late. He never wants difficult child to know. (I think is a big mistake)
So he gets his first unemployment check for the past 4 weeks missing one day each week. Unemployment deducted child support, as well as his weekly check from work. So he is paying TWICE each week. Since we are so close to the end of the child support, I just said, well that much sooner. He was angry. He called Unemployment. They know nothing, had him call a different number. They know nothing had him call Ohio. They no nothing. ????? Have you ever tried to get through to a government office? This took all week. And no answers. Nobody knows anything. Once July comes it will be a couple hundred more a month. Hoping he still has a job by then. I just got my merit increase...I work hard and always put forth all my effort. Average raise 3%. I got 5.88%
guess they really do notice me.
When easy child gets a job I won't have to make his loan payment and that will help.
husband talked to me for hours yesterday. We tried to think of a way to talk to easy child without him getting defensive. We KNOW he is sad about not working and it is a sore subject. husband got him talking and laughing. Then they went out for a beer. husband gave him $5.00 and bought him a drink before he left him there with friends. He said they had a good talk. Praying a job comes through for him.
Anyone know what to do about the double payments being deducted for Child support? He is only getting unemployment for 8 hours a week. So when they deduct the child support he has next to nothing. Then when he gets his paycheck it is deducted there too.
It is a real sore spot for husband that I make more than him. Less hours makes it even more difficult for husband. Then I get a raise......
Wish he made more!
Must briefly say this. 6 years ago - the very day I lost my job, he gets a letter in the mail from Ohio. He was being sued for Child support for the past 17 years, upto and including the birth of the child and all medical bills. Note here------17 years ago. He did not know. It was before he met me. We have been together now, 22 years. But this was 6 years ago that he got that letter. Apparently on his trip from South Carolina to Green Bay he spent the summer in Ohio. Moved on to Green Bay. We met...blah, blah. He has always worked. Never for cash so he wasn't hiding from anyone. Took the DNA test. Yep, he's the father of a now 17 year old boy. He didn't know about. I was angry because she never told him. Now she wants child support for a child he never had the chance to even meet. After many trips to Ohio, and many phone calls it was then settled on a lump sum of $10K. husband doesn't make much money at all, so this deduction weekly has really hurt us. Just recently been doing my own calculations. Should be done paying in July.
Both husband and the boy have no intention of meeting. husband is angry he never was able to be a part of his life. Now is too late. He never wants difficult child to know. (I think is a big mistake)
So he gets his first unemployment check for the past 4 weeks missing one day each week. Unemployment deducted child support, as well as his weekly check from work. So he is paying TWICE each week. Since we are so close to the end of the child support, I just said, well that much sooner. He was angry. He called Unemployment. They know nothing, had him call a different number. They know nothing had him call Ohio. They no nothing. ????? Have you ever tried to get through to a government office? This took all week. And no answers. Nobody knows anything. Once July comes it will be a couple hundred more a month. Hoping he still has a job by then. I just got my merit increase...I work hard and always put forth all my effort. Average raise 3%. I got 5.88%
guess they really do notice me.
When easy child gets a job I won't have to make his loan payment and that will help.
husband talked to me for hours yesterday. We tried to think of a way to talk to easy child without him getting defensive. We KNOW he is sad about not working and it is a sore subject. husband got him talking and laughing. Then they went out for a beer. husband gave him $5.00 and bought him a drink before he left him there with friends. He said they had a good talk. Praying a job comes through for him.
Anyone know what to do about the double payments being deducted for Child support? He is only getting unemployment for 8 hours a week. So when they deduct the child support he has next to nothing. Then when he gets his paycheck it is deducted there too.
It is a real sore spot for husband that I make more than him. Less hours makes it even more difficult for husband. Then I get a raise......
Wish he made more!