hi
i'm so guilt ridden right now....... did you ever have a horrible argument infront of your kids, than after think oh my god what damage did i just do??
well, that's me right now..... we had a drag out full blown argument like i have never seen the likes of infront of our kids today. yes prompted somewhat by me.
yet he blew and blew bad.... everything and anything he's been holding in for 9 mos or maybe 3 years came pouring out so unexpectedly. he went to leave the house with-his kids and not me and difficult child. difficult child totally fell apart and planted him severely. yes i know this is so bad.
he said things he's never shared with me, that he's pushed deep down inside. whether or not it gave him the right to just explode all over the place i just dont' know right now. yet there was so much. all i could say after calming kids down who were panicked with are you getting a divorce, we are all best friends we wont' see eachother anymore, difficult child crying was wow.
when he finally calmed down, and i got kids in den and told them to calm down it all came out. from he doesn't feel like he's part of this family ever. i dont' save dinner for him, i dont do anything for him at all. he comes home to hear what great dinners i cooked yet he said how could you not save me some? i look in the fridge each night adn it's never there. you dont' even wash my clothes anymore, or fold them or anything. i guess lately i've slipped with laundry. he just went on and on.
said how he's the guy that works and comes home that's it. it's him and his kids and me and mine and he supports us, buys whatever we need and on occassion i watch a movie with him or stay up late.
all i could say was how could you sit by and not say a word, not talk to me, not share what's going on and let yourself explode this way? he has a bad temper, always has that's part of the problem. yet to hold it all in?
so, please tell me someone else out there has had this type of thing go down in their home infront of their kids and the kids survived it, what did you do?? i feel so bad right now. i cant' begin to tell you.
easy child whose been a handful every single day came home towards the end of it and it gave her an excuse to fly off the handle and take off yet again.
i feel like such a bad parent right now. im not the one that yelled and carried on he was. he didn't do anything or curse he just totally unleashed, went on and on infront of the kids. about the money, he works so hard he isnt' part of this family.
ugh..... and to think i partially created this
i'm so guilt ridden right now....... did you ever have a horrible argument infront of your kids, than after think oh my god what damage did i just do??
well, that's me right now..... we had a drag out full blown argument like i have never seen the likes of infront of our kids today. yes prompted somewhat by me.
yet he blew and blew bad.... everything and anything he's been holding in for 9 mos or maybe 3 years came pouring out so unexpectedly. he went to leave the house with-his kids and not me and difficult child. difficult child totally fell apart and planted him severely. yes i know this is so bad.
he said things he's never shared with me, that he's pushed deep down inside. whether or not it gave him the right to just explode all over the place i just dont' know right now. yet there was so much. all i could say after calming kids down who were panicked with are you getting a divorce, we are all best friends we wont' see eachother anymore, difficult child crying was wow.
when he finally calmed down, and i got kids in den and told them to calm down it all came out. from he doesn't feel like he's part of this family ever. i dont' save dinner for him, i dont do anything for him at all. he comes home to hear what great dinners i cooked yet he said how could you not save me some? i look in the fridge each night adn it's never there. you dont' even wash my clothes anymore, or fold them or anything. i guess lately i've slipped with laundry. he just went on and on.
said how he's the guy that works and comes home that's it. it's him and his kids and me and mine and he supports us, buys whatever we need and on occassion i watch a movie with him or stay up late.
all i could say was how could you sit by and not say a word, not talk to me, not share what's going on and let yourself explode this way? he has a bad temper, always has that's part of the problem. yet to hold it all in?
so, please tell me someone else out there has had this type of thing go down in their home infront of their kids and the kids survived it, what did you do?? i feel so bad right now. i cant' begin to tell you.
easy child whose been a handful every single day came home towards the end of it and it gave her an excuse to fly off the handle and take off yet again.
i feel like such a bad parent right now. im not the one that yelled and carried on he was. he didn't do anything or curse he just totally unleashed, went on and on infront of the kids. about the money, he works so hard he isnt' part of this family.
ugh..... and to think i partially created this