As a teen, I slept and did not do drugs when depressed. Sleep was my refuge. I also did not eat though. I did do better when I was taking vitamins. I dont do that now, but I should, it is not a fix, I am not saying that, just saying for the energy. I would for sure be worried about drugs, especially pot with all the sleep, but if she is with you all of the time, it could just be the depression.
Do you have in your area mental health case managers through the county. We have that here. Their job is to help you find resources and to coordinate those. They will help with financial assistance, even some things that are not income dependent as well. Just depends on the county/state you are in. Even if they dont take you, they may have a list of resources...I suspect they for sure do.... and you can do the calling yourself. I am with you and IC...the frustration of calling around to find appropriate help is maddening. She is right, we all need to actually breathe in those times. I literally can feel my jaw so tight and do shallow breathe. Can you relate to that?
If it was me, and it was a month ago/a couple of weeks ago....(not same situation, but for sure a desperation for help).... I would not ask the doctor what he/she thinks. I would say ok, we are at our limit here. This absloutely can't go on and she is not functioning at all. We need a higher level of support. She needs intensive counseling either private, intensive out patient (which can be daily or a couple of days or a couple of half days, etc...depends on the person and the place) or to be in the hospital to change her medications safely. She is being aggressive and even if she denies that she at the moment is a threat to herself or others, her actions say differently.
But that is just me, I do have times when, though polite, I will not drop the bone. If her school is not helping you, you are going to need private help through mental health systems. Still work on the school situation, she needs an IEP for emotional disorders if she does not have that (so sorry I can't remember). But she needs help now, I think I am hearing you say....so the wheels for that can turn while you are getting her help I would think.
It is all easier said than done because you have already been calling everywhere, one of these times though a door has to open. I will keep postitve thoughts and prayers for you because you deserve a break for all the hard work you are doing and she definately needs it. You have seen little glimmers that she is still there, if this horrible illness can be controlled, she will improve. Call psychiatrists office and really let them know you are at a limit. two weeks is a long time, but fortunately it is not months....I wish they had to care for her and see what you are seeing for those two "short" weeks. uggg. The idea of a cancellation appointment is good because they happen all of the time especially in mental health offices. AND they DO have emergency appointments. Bring her in as she is, do not force a shower etc... they need to see she is not able to properly care for herself. It is one of the diagnostic symptoms they look at.
Just random thoughts, I really feel for you and wish we could be there to actually hold your hand and let you know that we are here for you. YOU are doing great. The system is just letting you down right now.