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toughlovin
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OK so as you know my son checked himself into a psychiatric hospital which is good. I think it was because he was very broken up by things with his girlfriend... I believe she is really trying to end it but I also think she cares about him and is trying to "help" him. She is a nice girl. I looked at the phone records and they are still communicating. But it looks to me like he is doing all the calling.
I am sorely tempted to call her and ask her if she thinks they might get together again or is she just trying to be there for him. If she really knows they are done then it would be better for him if she made it final.... and let him deal with that while he is in the hospital and safe from harming himself.
Of course that could really backfire on me and probably would because if she told him I called he would be really really mad at me and any progress we have made in our relationship would be done.
My husband says to try and talk to him about it and that is probably what I should do.... but he probably won't be open to discussing it with me.
I can just see the pattern here. This is what happened with his last serious girlfriend.... they broke up, got back together, over and over and he pretty much fell apart at the end.... but when she finally was really done he did finally move on. This staying in and trying to help him doesn't work.
Oh the wisdom of life experience. I just want to tell them both it is over and can't they see that.
So should I keep my hands to myself and not dial her number?
TL
I am sorely tempted to call her and ask her if she thinks they might get together again or is she just trying to be there for him. If she really knows they are done then it would be better for him if she made it final.... and let him deal with that while he is in the hospital and safe from harming himself.
Of course that could really backfire on me and probably would because if she told him I called he would be really really mad at me and any progress we have made in our relationship would be done.
My husband says to try and talk to him about it and that is probably what I should do.... but he probably won't be open to discussing it with me.
I can just see the pattern here. This is what happened with his last serious girlfriend.... they broke up, got back together, over and over and he pretty much fell apart at the end.... but when she finally was really done he did finally move on. This staying in and trying to help him doesn't work.
Oh the wisdom of life experience. I just want to tell them both it is over and can't they see that.
So should I keep my hands to myself and not dial her number?
TL