If you could...

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by DS3, Oct 16, 2011.

  1. DS3

    DS3 New Member

    If you could pass along any piece of information in regards to raising your children, what would it be? This can be a short story, a piece of advice, anything that you think the people with 'normal' kids should be aware of, or know. Anything you would like to share basically.

    (I say 'normal' in quotes, because I personally believe that we're all a little bit crazy in one way or another.) :imok:
  2. Steely

    Steely Active Member

    Is this for you or a class? I ask because I have an answer for both:)
  3. Liahona

    Liahona Guest

    be careful who you marry.
  4. InsaneCdn

    InsaneCdn Well-Known Member

    If you start young, you'll have more energy... and less wisdom.
    If you start later, you'll have more wisdom... and less energy.

    Therefore - there is no formula for the "right" time to start a family.
  5. Marcie Mac

    Marcie Mac Just Plain Ole Tired

    Patience is not a virtue, its an absolutely necessity along with water and air :)

  6. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    Be unselfish.
  7. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    If you honestly take the time to listen to your children, you'll learn as much from them as they do from you.
  8. gcvmom

    gcvmom Here we go again!

    Don't sweat the small stuff. If your kids are "normal," it's all small stuff. And if they're difficult children, then just be careful how you pick your battles.
  9. Malika

    Malika Well-Known Member

    Try to remember what it was like to be a child yourself.
  10. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    Proceed with love.

    Don't take the easy way out.

    Respect your child and family.

    Know the difference between "can't" and "won't".

    Remember, at the end of the day, you still love one another.

    Try to use natural consequences whenever possible. And explain why you are disciplining him/her so they know it comes from caring for them and not from anger.

    Try not to take things personally (but don't be a doormat either!).
  11. DS3

    DS3 New Member

    It's for me. I get these curious questions in my head and proceed to ask them. :D Also, if I find anything really useful, I'll pass it along to those that could use the advice, or help to inspire others. Part of me wants to write a book. Part of me knows, I would never finish it. LOL. So I ask the questions and enjoy the answers. Hope that makes sense.
  12. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    I read this in a book by Robert Fulghum... Called "Uh-Oh". So I use it now.

    Crisis arises. Is it a PROBLEM, or an INCONVENIENCE?
    Problem: House burns down. No place to live. No food. REALLY sick (hospital sick) and no money for doctor.
    Inconvenience: Mom cooked hot dogs AGAIN. Can't find the T-shirt I want to wear. Mrs. X assigned so much homework I can't go out with my friends. YADA YADA.
  13. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    If you can get through the day without tears, vomit, or bloodshed, it's a good day. (Being a substitute teacher, I try to keep the day in a practical perspective.)
  14. shellyd67

    shellyd67 Active Member

    First off, I love this thread !

    Actions speak louder than words is my motto !!
  15. flutterby

    flutterby Fly away!

    I don't care what authority or education and training a person has, you know your child better than anyone else. Trust your gut. Always.
  16. DS3

    DS3 New Member

    I think my advice would be to think what that person is going through before you pass judgement. Introduce yourself and get to know them. You may just be surprised what you learn.

    (And judgement passing is left in a higher being's power, not ours.)
  17. SearchingForRainbows

    SearchingForRainbows Active Member

    Cherish the special moments you share with your children. While on a day to day basis, it might seem like they'll be young forever, childhood is over much quicker then you think.

    No matter how busy you are, make time to take care of yourself. Taking care of yourself is not selfish. It's a necessity.

    This is a great thread! Thank you for starting it. SFR
  18. SearchingForRainbows

    SearchingForRainbows Active Member

    Love this!! SFR
  19. buddy

    buddy New Member

    I posted this before but I re-read it myself daily because I have it on a paper on my bedroom mirror.....

    When your children deserve your love the least--is when they need it the most.
  20. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    Heather~ I say it this way:

    Some are experts in education, others are experts in healthcare. But I'm the expert on my child.

    Strange how so many of us have similar philosophies. :)