some one pls tell me how i am to handle my 12 yr old son who possiably has ODD,how do i make him listen to me,when he misbehaves i ground him,but soon as his father leaves for work he goes out anyway,he will go where ever he wants,i tell him to listen to me and he just yells no,really load,we end up in a massive argument,it upsets my other son 7,and my baby g,12 months,i need to help them too and he is soooo naughty,he behaves when his father is at home,though he only respects his father out of fear,his father will give him a good *** whipping,i am not so pysical ,i just yell,which upsets me too.i have contemplated ringing the police on him when he takes off,but i dont know if they will help me,i need some time out from him ,or i feel i might just pick up my bags and run away some place myself,im so over all his bad behaviours