difficult child is not doing well at the new school at all. I have gone with him every day (Thu-Fri-today). He abides by the deal we made about him only going into each class (he has 6) for 10 min. If he does that, he gets 10 min on the computer in the resource room. As I said in my other thread, SpEd is awesome and totally "gets it". He is in a town 20 mins from home where he doesn't know a sole. He doesn't like some of the teachers, and at times it seems the feeling might be mutual. JMO. He doesn't have a problem going but problems start when anyone tries to get him to do any work. He has always said he wishes they could help him with it like I do. I am sitting right there and am willing to teach them but he refuses to do anything. The new para, as nice and understanding as she is, talks to much and tells him on ocassion to act like an 8th grader. That makes him feel worse about himself. His self-esteem is in the toilet. He feels dumb because he can't do the work the other kids in the resource room are doing and he doesn't want them to see how dumb he is. I wish there was a way for him to be in a self-contained room with SpEd teaching just him until he can build up some trust and self-confidence. The other thing that I know sets him off is that things are very disorganized over there and things keep changing. Examples: 1) there is a beanbag in the resource room that he was told last week he could lay in. Today, he is informed that he can't because it is another student's personal property. He has to sit at the table with everyone else. 2) He was told on Friday that he would have band lessons during study hall. He went during study hall and was told his lesson was on Tuesdays so he was upset. When I told him I was leaving because I was getting hungry and need to be home to pick up easy child/difficult child, he followed me outside and started crying that he needed me. Para tried to coax him back in to go to the band lesson but that ended up backfiring. He is not to the point where he doesn't want to go and I don't want it to reach that point. I just don't know what else to do. I feel so torn I feel so much like crying. As much for him as for me. I don't know what more I can do when his fears/anxiety are getting so in the way and it is coming out as defiance. I feel so lost. I feel very incompetent. I want what's best for him and am willing to put my life on hold to help him but right now, I feel like I'm climbing a never-ending cavern wall. I don't want to give up but I don't know what more I can do. Thanks for letting me lean on you.