We all know it can be difficult living with a difficult child...
and despite all the "big stuff" major meltdowns, rages, episodes with law enforcement--
it's the little, stupid, day-to-day aggravations that just are wearing me down.
May I just list a few without sounding petty?
There's the "Makeup Issue"...
difficult child wears waaay too much makeup...and then refuses to wash her face at the end of the day. Her eyelashes are absolutely caked with gunk. I even went out and bought her eye makeup remover pads--but she would prefer to yell at me about how they make her eyes look red...instead of just removing the darn eye makeup.
The kicker on this issue this week? She left her makeup back on the counter. I had purchased her some eyeshadow as a Valentine's Day gift--the makeup is already used up to the bottom of the little tins! What's it been--a little more than a week??? And the eyeliner pencils she got just before school started are worn down to little nubs. Ugghhh!!!! Too much!!!!
There's the "Respect Issue"...
difficult child got makeup for Valentine's Day and we gave DS a gift bag of Men's goodies--Axe Shampoo, Hair Gel, Axe Deoderant stuff like that. difficult child is jealous--so next time she was in the bathroom she watered down all of his bath products. She's also been using his hairbrush to wash her hands. DS is understandably upset--naturally difficult child lies about it and is ready to throw a tantrum to prove how innocent she is. Ugghhh!!!!
She doesn't know it--but difficult child is using the money in her bank account to replace her brother's stuff AND buy him a caddy that he can carry to the bathroom each time he showers. Sneaky of me? Sure...but I just don't care any more. I'm tired of trying to rationalize with difficult child.
There's the "Food Issue"...
Won't eat--will eat. Too much--not enough. And we're all supposed to just magically know when she feels like eating and when she doesn't. And, of course, we get yelled at for not knowing (Of course I'm hungry! You didn't make enough!!)
And then she eats junk food all day at school. Manages to get herself candy and snacks from the vending machines despite having no cash. How do I know? Her bedroom is full of food wrappers again. Who the heck is supplying my kid with all this junk????
No wonder there is no appetite for dinner! And no wonder she is not eating the school lunches...
I just get tired of all of the stupid little conflicts about NOTHING. Why can't she just eat her meals? Why can't DS be left alone? Why does she care what kind of shampoo he has? And why does even the simplest thing--like washing her face--have to be a big battle?
I want to run away.
Thanks for listening...
--DaisyFace
and despite all the "big stuff" major meltdowns, rages, episodes with law enforcement--
it's the little, stupid, day-to-day aggravations that just are wearing me down.
May I just list a few without sounding petty?
There's the "Makeup Issue"...
difficult child wears waaay too much makeup...and then refuses to wash her face at the end of the day. Her eyelashes are absolutely caked with gunk. I even went out and bought her eye makeup remover pads--but she would prefer to yell at me about how they make her eyes look red...instead of just removing the darn eye makeup.
The kicker on this issue this week? She left her makeup back on the counter. I had purchased her some eyeshadow as a Valentine's Day gift--the makeup is already used up to the bottom of the little tins! What's it been--a little more than a week??? And the eyeliner pencils she got just before school started are worn down to little nubs. Ugghhh!!!! Too much!!!!
There's the "Respect Issue"...
difficult child got makeup for Valentine's Day and we gave DS a gift bag of Men's goodies--Axe Shampoo, Hair Gel, Axe Deoderant stuff like that. difficult child is jealous--so next time she was in the bathroom she watered down all of his bath products. She's also been using his hairbrush to wash her hands. DS is understandably upset--naturally difficult child lies about it and is ready to throw a tantrum to prove how innocent she is. Ugghhh!!!!
She doesn't know it--but difficult child is using the money in her bank account to replace her brother's stuff AND buy him a caddy that he can carry to the bathroom each time he showers. Sneaky of me? Sure...but I just don't care any more. I'm tired of trying to rationalize with difficult child.
There's the "Food Issue"...
Won't eat--will eat. Too much--not enough. And we're all supposed to just magically know when she feels like eating and when she doesn't. And, of course, we get yelled at for not knowing (Of course I'm hungry! You didn't make enough!!)
And then she eats junk food all day at school. Manages to get herself candy and snacks from the vending machines despite having no cash. How do I know? Her bedroom is full of food wrappers again. Who the heck is supplying my kid with all this junk????
No wonder there is no appetite for dinner! And no wonder she is not eating the school lunches...
I just get tired of all of the stupid little conflicts about NOTHING. Why can't she just eat her meals? Why can't DS be left alone? Why does she care what kind of shampoo he has? And why does even the simplest thing--like washing her face--have to be a big battle?
I want to run away.
Thanks for listening...
--DaisyFace