toughlovin
Well-Known Member
I have been at this for way too long! Those of you who have followed my story know this.....so I am finding myself worrying about my gig and how he is going to manage after detox etc etc. I am in that place of wanting to come up with all the solutions and it is interfering with my peace of mind!
I think one of the things that I am struggling with is reconciling the signs of progress, keeping a job, applying to community college, getting through a breakup without hospitalization, his decision to get help with his drinking....with really how bad things got for him. Maybe I am having trouble with him hitting bottom even with all the positives.
So him going back to his apartment scares me and yet at the same time the job is at the core of a lot of his progress.
And in the end the decisions of what's next are his. He has to decide what's next and what he's going to do. I can't direct him and am not even sure how to even if I could.
I know the answer is I need to let go of the outcome but it's so hard. I guess now is the time to keep repeating the serenity prayer!
I think one of the things that I am struggling with is reconciling the signs of progress, keeping a job, applying to community college, getting through a breakup without hospitalization, his decision to get help with his drinking....with really how bad things got for him. Maybe I am having trouble with him hitting bottom even with all the positives.
So him going back to his apartment scares me and yet at the same time the job is at the core of a lot of his progress.
And in the end the decisions of what's next are his. He has to decide what's next and what he's going to do. I can't direct him and am not even sure how to even if I could.
I know the answer is I need to let go of the outcome but it's so hard. I guess now is the time to keep repeating the serenity prayer!