easy child is babysitting until 2:00 am for J and S's 1 yr old baby at J's apartment while he is at work. She has been friends of S's for a long time. J and S are both in their 20's. They were suppose to get married until S got pregnant and kicked J out.
I have asked easy child to stay away fom S's home because I feel it is not a good place for the baby. However, easy child goes over to see another friend N (also quite a bit older than easy child) a lot. I have told easy child that when S gets into trouble with baby L that she will be pulled into it just for being in the house. Baby L is often left with S's sister H who has been in and out of jail numerous times and refused to take L to ER one time because there was a warrant out for her arrest.
I find out today that S has gotten into trouble and baby L (rash and bruise) is now in J's full time custody. S and N (who has two kids of her own in the house) have created a new house list of people not allowed over (easy child thinks this has to do with the social services investigation?). easy child is on that list (and I couldn't be happier!) easy child said both girls are drama queens. (I'll have to ask her what is happening with N's kids!).
Anyway, just S drove by J's apt and saw easy child's vehicle. She called J at work and told him she was calling the police on easy child. easy child calls me and asks what will the police do? easy child states she has lots of people who will vouch for her as a good babysitter (and she is one of the best). She is afraid that if this goes on her record, she will not get paid for watching another friend's baby (government funding). I told her that if the police do show up tonight that they will just make sure that baby L is safe. If she is not, they will remove her and possibly arrest easy child. However, since she is safe, there is nothing to worry about. I told easy child to be truthful and calm if the police do come and asked if she wanted me to come over to be there if the police do come. She said she was fine alone and they think S is bluffing. S had called the police on J not too long ago so I told easy child that the police will know that S is starting to behave like this and though they have to follow up on every complaint, they will not be surprised that her's will come to dead ends.
I have told easy child that she should not be dealing with these "friends". They are all atleast 4 years older than her (which is a lot when you are 18) and she seems to be the mature one in the bunch. I had talked to all her older friends and asked that they encourage her to go to college. They all refused to do so because if she went away to college they would loose their problem solver.
She is so concerned with baby L. "Who else does J have to watch her?" "But easy child, this is not your problem and I don't want you pulled into any of their legal problems."
Such is the life of my easy child these days! When is she going to learn that her friend's lifestyles effect her and she needs to walk away? She doesn't have to solve their problems for them?
I have asked easy child to stay away fom S's home because I feel it is not a good place for the baby. However, easy child goes over to see another friend N (also quite a bit older than easy child) a lot. I have told easy child that when S gets into trouble with baby L that she will be pulled into it just for being in the house. Baby L is often left with S's sister H who has been in and out of jail numerous times and refused to take L to ER one time because there was a warrant out for her arrest.
I find out today that S has gotten into trouble and baby L (rash and bruise) is now in J's full time custody. S and N (who has two kids of her own in the house) have created a new house list of people not allowed over (easy child thinks this has to do with the social services investigation?). easy child is on that list (and I couldn't be happier!) easy child said both girls are drama queens. (I'll have to ask her what is happening with N's kids!).
Anyway, just S drove by J's apt and saw easy child's vehicle. She called J at work and told him she was calling the police on easy child. easy child calls me and asks what will the police do? easy child states she has lots of people who will vouch for her as a good babysitter (and she is one of the best). She is afraid that if this goes on her record, she will not get paid for watching another friend's baby (government funding). I told her that if the police do show up tonight that they will just make sure that baby L is safe. If she is not, they will remove her and possibly arrest easy child. However, since she is safe, there is nothing to worry about. I told easy child to be truthful and calm if the police do come and asked if she wanted me to come over to be there if the police do come. She said she was fine alone and they think S is bluffing. S had called the police on J not too long ago so I told easy child that the police will know that S is starting to behave like this and though they have to follow up on every complaint, they will not be surprised that her's will come to dead ends.
I have told easy child that she should not be dealing with these "friends". They are all atleast 4 years older than her (which is a lot when you are 18) and she seems to be the mature one in the bunch. I had talked to all her older friends and asked that they encourage her to go to college. They all refused to do so because if she went away to college they would loose their problem solver.
She is so concerned with baby L. "Who else does J have to watch her?" "But easy child, this is not your problem and I don't want you pulled into any of their legal problems."
Such is the life of my easy child these days! When is she going to learn that her friend's lifestyles effect her and she needs to walk away? She doesn't have to solve their problems for them?
