OK I know I need to not talk to this woman.
Then why do you?She is the essence of evil.
I told you this too didn't I? Now I am in tears and sick to my stomach.
I'm sorry you allowed her to have control over you again.I am the bad person as usual.
What? Did you think she will EVER tell you you're anything else? (YAWN) garbage in garbage out. SHe's garbage
mother in law was supposed to be taking difficult child II to my neice's graduation party, where S2BX would be out on a day pass.
Supposed to be is the key word - she is not an honorable person and you don't know how to play this game well enough yet - I will be glad to teach you! It would be the 1st time difficult child II would be seeing S2BX since January.
Yeah yeah -she's had this all worked out in her evil little head. mother in law is annoyed difficult child I can not come because he is on house arrest, and the court says he can only leave the house with me or to go to school or work.
NO SHE'S NOT - she is a martyr and had this planned to MAKE YOU THINK she's annoyed and disappointed and did I say you didn't know how to play this game well yet? Uh huh - she's an amateur. I will help you!! And now says she can't take difficult child II either because it would be too inconvenient.
BOLONGA - she really had this planned to make HERSELF alone with your S2BX (she's controlling) and if YOUR kid or HIS kid came to the party SHE would loose control of HIM - he would pay attention to his kid and NOW YOU come out looking like that bad guy and SHE's (drape hand over forhead) Poor little Scarlet in Tara. And "she's sorry S2BX will disappointed."
NO SHE IS NOT - SHE's HAPPY SHE GETS HER SON ALL TO HERSELF.
Then she has the %#$#&%$% to say to me "I can't believe you allowed him (difficult child I) to be in jail for 7 days!
Okay NOW I'm going to start teaching you how to play the game - SHe said SHE CAN"T BELIEVE blah blah you & son - YOU SAY "WELL I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU ALLOWED YOUR SON TO DO DRUGS AND BREAK UP MY MARRIAGE AND LET HIM GO TO REHAB!!!!!! HE's ONLY 40!!!!!! He is a minor (he is 17)!" "you have the money, you could have gotten him out"
WHY DON'T YOU GET YOUR OWN SON OUT? "why was it he was allowed out all hours of the night, I thought you had control of your son?
"YOU THOUGHT I HAD CONTROL OF MY SON? GHEEEEEEEEEEEZE LOUISE WHO HAS NO CONTROL OVER THEIR SON? DANG WOMAN _ CALL A KETTLE BLACK OR WHAT?
that after she accused me of lying to the child support people and not telling them S2BX had quit his job or that he'd given me a check prior to filing.
WELL IF HE HAD A FREAKING JOB AND WASN"T A MOMMAS BOY HE WOULD BE PAYING HIS SUPPORT - YOU DO EVERYTHING ELSE FOR HIM WHY DON"T I JUST GET THEM TO HAVE YOU PAY IT? YOU LIKE BUTTING INTO HIS LIFE SO MUCH!!!!! I told them he quit his job and gave them a copy of the check he had given me.
YOU DON"T EXPLAIN SQUAT TO HER! Which they gave him credit for. I also went out of my way to call them and tell them the name of the rehab where he is. She thinks I am lying about that too.
IF YOU SAID YOU WERE AMAZEOFGRACE it would be a lie - the woman is incapable of comprehending the truth yet you continually feel the need to explain yourself and you do NOT have to explain to her a single solitary thing.......NUNYAH is a good word for you to learn to tell her.......NUNYA BUSINESS. I could vomit.
If you do point your head at her shoes. She'll make a HUGE deal about what you did, tell the whole family and once again you'll be the bad guy, except this time - you got the satisfaction of puuuuuuking on her shoes.
Sad thing is, I love my husband, and his family ecspecially mother in law is going to enable him into the grave,
NOPE - that's called CO-dependent - they can't live without a few key things. 1.) a common enemy (you), and 2.)each other but I will be blamed for it!
BUT OF COURSE!!!.
Okay sis - listen - you have GOT to either find a way to bite back and get this out of your system OR.......IGNORE HER COMPLETELY - I mean as of TODAY you stop taking her calls - change your phone number, do not answer the door, make yourself unavailable and live your life without this menace in it.
IT can be done. After 13 years of kissing hind end, and doing things for my xmil that NO ONE in her own family would do for her, and listening to her cry, and whine and moan about how everyone of her kids was killing her and feeling sorry for her, trying to fix stuff for her - and STILL being the BUTT of all her jokes, all her anger and all her hatred - (they have to have someone to blame) I finally told her what I thought about her. I finally stood up to her and instead of cowering and taking her crud - I yelled back and told her that from this day forward if she had nothing nice to say then SHUT HER YAP. I was NOT her punching bag, and I wasn't there for her to verbally abuse - and if she couldn't be nice to me - then leave me the HE&& alone.
She said a few more things - and I said - very very calmly - FINE then I take that - as YOU chose to leave me alone - and I did NOT talk to her for over 9 years. She came to my house, told me she was dying - I told her that was too bad. She started to argue with me - I got up, opened the door and said very calmy "Get out - no one here wants or lives for chaos or drama, the rules were explained and I'm asking you one time to leave on your own. My next move is to call the police and have you removed from my home." She got up and left.
I never saw her again - she did try calling, I served her with an order of protection that covered myself, & my son via phone, physical contact, and mail.
She died - I never cried. I told Dude about it - he shrugged and asked to go ride his bike. She abused both of us. In a sense - by allowing her to control you and your conversations - she's abusing you and your kids as well. YOU are the only one that can hang up or over shout her on the phone and tell her you aren't taking it from her - SHE IS NOT GOD -SHE IS NOT THE DEVIL either, she is a woman who gets off on bossing people around, she's a common bully, she's a sick woman who has no business telling you how to run YOUR life. If she did such a fantastic job running her own life she wouldn't have to pick on YOU. AND SHE DOES BECAUSE YOU ALLOW HER TO. She's a game player, a minor league manipulator and YOU have GOT to find the means to tell her either STOP her games or don't call you.
You can live without her.
Probably be better off.
My sincerest hugs.
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