If you've followed my story, you know that mother in law got custody in 95 when husband had a drug problem (before I met him). mother in law let us have the kids in Nov 96, but she kept custody. The only way we would ever get it from her was to sue and husband doesn't believe in sueing mommy. So, in september 09, difficult child-S moved in with mother in law cuz we insisted on a drug-rehab program and continuing with her Bi-Polar treatment/counseling. Well, before mother in law even took difficult child-S, she contacted the state to reinstate the original child suppor ($25) and started modification. Just got the paperwork. We are to pay HUGE amount. Enough that we will not be able to pay all our bills. And husband and I have govt jobs which means as soon as we start getting behind on payments, we will lose our jobs. And mother in law doesn't give a you-know-what about anything but money in her pocket. Of course, I probably won't lose anything because my Dad (a REAL parent) won't let that happen. He's already said if he has to completely drain his retirement accounts, he will see that we don't lose anything. He's a great Dad. But, I don't want him to do that. It's not right for him to lose everything to protect me from mother in law. I can't sell my house because I owe double what it's worth thanks to the wonder housing bubble bursting. And the worst part for me, is that I know when husband gets over his anger, he'll forgive his mom, even if we've lost everything, because he is that kind of guy. And I don't know if I'll be able to forgive him for forgiving her. Sure does make the issues of what difficult child-A is up to seem like small potatoes.