DammitJanet
Well-Known Member
I understand the going over. I kept going to my moms no matter how badly she treated me or how badly she had treated me in the past. I wanted my kids to have a grandmother. Besides that, she basically had Billy. From the time he was born she took him from me and getting him back in my physical possession was next to impossible. Oh he lived with me for several years here and there but the more he lived with me the more she was involved in my life. She would just show up and make herself at home even if it meant sleeping on the couch when we moved out of town. She felt she had a trump card on me and it took me years...literally years....to figure out she probably couldnt use it because she couldnt prove it.
See, right before I had Billy I was raped and before that I had been dating a girl. I was a difficult child and was looking for love anywhere I could find it. I thought I was bisexual. Who knows.
She held that over my head and said she would tell the judge that I was sleeping with a girl when I was raped, that I planned the rape and that I shouldnt have custody of my son. Now I know she would have no chance in heck of proving those allegations but back then I was a scared kid and I was afraid to test her. So I basically let her call the shots where it came to Billy.
He was allowed to move with us to NC for almost 4 years but when he started having trouble in middle school he moved back with her. Biggest mistake I ever made. If I had known that I could have forced the school to move him to another school in my district, I would have done that.
I kept letting my younger two go see her because Billy was there. Also she needed me for help. She wanted me to help her when she had problems. She wanted Tony to help her build things. I was there for her when she had cataract surgery even though she had this strange man who was about 7 years younger than me living with her. He didnt work, he was a bum she found wandering around a local campground and she invited him to stay at her place. It was weird. He really played her and I think he took her for a large amount of money. I know she bought him a car. I know there is a setting of silver missing and at least two diamond rings.
This man attempted to rape me while I was taking care of my mom during her recovery from her surgery and she would hear nothing of it. She said I must have led him on. NOT. Why would I? If I was going to cheat on Tony, I would at least look for someone better than a loser with no prospects! Why look lower than what I have? Duh. Tony was ******. He flat told my mom that we would never go there again if that man was there and we didnt. If we went, that guy cleared out. He was afraid of Tony. After my mom got so sick and we had to take her in, we found out more about the guy.....Billy would never call us and tell us all that was going on. Why I dont know. If we had known, that guy would have been history long ago. He had been hitting Billy, verbally abusing both of them. It was bad. Tony would have half killed the guy. Tony hated my mom but family is family.
See, right before I had Billy I was raped and before that I had been dating a girl. I was a difficult child and was looking for love anywhere I could find it. I thought I was bisexual. Who knows.
She held that over my head and said she would tell the judge that I was sleeping with a girl when I was raped, that I planned the rape and that I shouldnt have custody of my son. Now I know she would have no chance in heck of proving those allegations but back then I was a scared kid and I was afraid to test her. So I basically let her call the shots where it came to Billy.
He was allowed to move with us to NC for almost 4 years but when he started having trouble in middle school he moved back with her. Biggest mistake I ever made. If I had known that I could have forced the school to move him to another school in my district, I would have done that.
I kept letting my younger two go see her because Billy was there. Also she needed me for help. She wanted me to help her when she had problems. She wanted Tony to help her build things. I was there for her when she had cataract surgery even though she had this strange man who was about 7 years younger than me living with her. He didnt work, he was a bum she found wandering around a local campground and she invited him to stay at her place. It was weird. He really played her and I think he took her for a large amount of money. I know she bought him a car. I know there is a setting of silver missing and at least two diamond rings.
This man attempted to rape me while I was taking care of my mom during her recovery from her surgery and she would hear nothing of it. She said I must have led him on. NOT. Why would I? If I was going to cheat on Tony, I would at least look for someone better than a loser with no prospects! Why look lower than what I have? Duh. Tony was ******. He flat told my mom that we would never go there again if that man was there and we didnt. If we went, that guy cleared out. He was afraid of Tony. After my mom got so sick and we had to take her in, we found out more about the guy.....Billy would never call us and tell us all that was going on. Why I dont know. If we had known, that guy would have been history long ago. He had been hitting Billy, verbally abusing both of them. It was bad. Tony would have half killed the guy. Tony hated my mom but family is family.