Hi All New here but not new to the problems! I have two children - once is ADHD/Conduct Disorder, the other is ADHD and a provisional of Dystemia. He is my worry right now. A couple weeks shy of 15 and I just feel like he is slipping away from me. I highly suspect drug and or alcohol use. In August he was caught by the police at noon for being drunk in public. He and two others started drinking at 830 that morning!!! It was then that he admitted to using pot before that. I ask him to open - that's all I want and then we can handle the rest...just the truth! He has said he hates being at home because it stresses him out. He feels I nag him - I guess asking to do a few chores and clean up after himself is nagging. He does nothing around the house - well, he used to try and do the quick chores to get money. I've stopped as I told him that if he wants money for jobs done then they have to be done constantly no just when he needs money. He refuses to take his medications - he has a fear of them reacting with whatever else he is taking. He says he tells me truth but I guess we've all heard that before. I am rambling. My thoughts are everywhere right now. I am so worried about him. Not just for the using but I do think there are bigger things lurking underneath. He has put numerous holes in his walls out of anger, thrown glass at his brother because he was mad and tells us all to FO and leave him alone. He blames everyone around him for all his troubles. Seems to try and twist it all to everyone else - I don't recall the last time he had taken responsibility for something he had done. I have tried all the local resources and now just seem at a loss. Where do I go from here? What's next? Ahhh...thanks for reading. I know it's my first post and that I rambled a lot but if you go this far thanks!!