I have just joined this group, feeling relieved to find a place where others have gone through similar thinks my husband and I are going through. Our sons life went down hill at age 14. Expelled from high school, we sent him to a therapeutic boarding school for 2 years. Then private school after that. VERY difficult child to raise. Drugs & alcohol started back up, especially in college. With mostly D's & F's we told him he could not waste our money any more & couldn't go back. That was last May. In June we kicked him out. Had him physically removed by the police. Besides calling me a f... retard repeatedly, he was completely impossible to live with. Loud, messy, disrespectful, swearing, drinking & smoking in house when told not to. We have an 11 yr old girl, & I could not expose her to this any longer. The minute he enters a room, all dynamics change. Our home was in constant uproar. He went to live with a friends parents and work at a car wash. He was arrested for public intoxication. (he paid the fine & did community service). They kicked him out, & the car wash fired him. Went to live with some guys in a house and work at another car wash. He was arrested for DUI, we did not get him from jail. His roommates bailed him out. He is paying fine and doing probation. But 3 days ago they kicked him out. He is impossible to live with & did not pay the rent. My husband had just given him $80, and he had $200 from work, so we knew he had some money. He has slept outside in a wooded area near that house for 2 nights. But last night, we don't know where he slept. He called my husband begging to put him up in a hotel, but we said we could not give him any more money. Boarding school, private school, 2 years of college which was wasted is enough, right?
--We are at our wits end worrying about him, and feel SO bad that he has nowhere to sleep. Are we doing the right thing? Should we buy him a phone to keep in touch? (he has a month to month one, but goes long periods with paying it, so no connection)
--we lost our 2nd child to pneumonia 12 years ago, & I am going crazy worrying about my son.
--we think he might be bi-polar , no diagnosis yet (husbands mother had it & son is showing all sighs for 2 years now).
I really appreciate any input anyone has who has gone through similar circumstances, thank you very much
--We are at our wits end worrying about him, and feel SO bad that he has nowhere to sleep. Are we doing the right thing? Should we buy him a phone to keep in touch? (he has a month to month one, but goes long periods with paying it, so no connection)
--we lost our 2nd child to pneumonia 12 years ago, & I am going crazy worrying about my son.
--we think he might be bi-polar , no diagnosis yet (husbands mother had it & son is showing all sighs for 2 years now).
I really appreciate any input anyone has who has gone through similar circumstances, thank you very much