So last Friday I discovered this board and posted about my youngest daughter. My older daughter, who has been trying really hard under some really difficult circumstances, messed up really bad this past Friday. She went into her sub teachers bag and stole her classmates book money ($3) because she wanted it to spend at the fair happening at her daycare that night. What is so ironic is that she had to work hard on her behavior all week at daycare to earn the privilege to go! She called me about 4pm Friday to announce that she had "found" the money at school. I had her give the money to her daycare counselor to hold onto until I arrived. I had told the girls I would be bringing them money as soon as I got off work for the fair. (My youngest had a "perfect day" at school Friday, so I let her stay for the fair.) I arrived and gave the money to the two younger girls and called my oldest outside. I asked her calmly where the money came from and she proceeded to tell me a ridiculous lie. Once it was obvious to her that I wasn't buying her story, she finally admitted what she had done. Needless to say, she didn't stay for the fair. She also missed "Grandma Day" the following day and seeing Hotel for Dogs (which she had been very anxious to see), had to do extra chores and write sentences "I will not lie or steal" 100x. Last night she asked me at bedtime "Mommy...can you please help me stop lying and stealing?" I told her that is a decision she will have to make for herself. The best I can do is be a good example by not doing these things and give her consequences for her actions when she makes the wrong choice. This morning I had her give the money to her principal and explain what she had done. She will have to sit out recess for 3 days. I breatherd a sigh of releif she didn't suspend her since this is not the first time she has stolen and this was from a teachers purse! Well, I hope I did the right thing. I am considering implementing a reward system at home that includes allowance so she can start having her own money to save and spend. It seems that several times she has stolen because she didn't have any money and wanted some badly. If anyone has any ideas for a system I would love to hear them.