Well I guess the honeymoon 24 hours after our D-Day appointment is over. difficult child was pretty calm all day yesterday and relatively non combative. Although he had wanted to go to some girl's house we had never heard of, my husband had had a drink so was not going to drive him (and I am no longer driving him per safety). Ok so here is the funny ha-ha part ..... My husband said she could come here and difficult child said "we have a bad family dynamic - why should she be subjected to that ?" My husband asked him if he was serious as he is the cause of the dynamic and difficult child said something like "Well that's your interpretation". LMAO. To live in his reality. Really.
So, I digress, Last night difficult child stole soda from kitchen. I know it may sound weird to some but he has his own cabinet full of stuff (including soda) and it is a house rule that he stay out of our cabinet as he gorges himself on inappropriate, or just all, food. Anyway he constantly sneaks and steals as he does not deem this rule significant and therefore does not feel the need to follow it.
Last night my husband watched him hurry from kitchen with soda so he upped the ante and told him he was turning off Internet and cell phone for a week. difficult child wanted to know what for all innocent and husband just looked at him and calmly stated "for going into our cabinet and stealing soda because you must be out of your supply". difficult child told him not to lie to himself and then husband left room.
The issue came later when difficult child decided he would not take his medications unless the Internet and phone were turned back on and started a circular irrational argument with husband for more than 30 minutes. He said a ton of hurtful things, as usual, and my husband informed him of the choice he was making. If he did not take his medications here would be no more violin lessons and he would be pulled from the musical group he is in. Honestly if he does not take his medications I would think the end of June plan would go into effect now.
I do not even know how to explain the weird escalating argument without going into detail but I think that anyone who reads this with a difficult child similar will know exactly what I am saying.
My husband disengaged and left the den. difficult child pounded on the den table downstairs a bunch of times while I sat transfixed in fear upstairs in the LR - after about 30 minutes he stormed upstairs and went to his room. My husband asked if he took his medications and he claimed yes. Usually the rule is for him to take them in front of us but my husband was so battle weary that he took his word for it. Not sure how I feel about that but difficult child went in room and to bed so I guess I should be grateful episode was over.
Thanks for listening.
So, I digress, Last night difficult child stole soda from kitchen. I know it may sound weird to some but he has his own cabinet full of stuff (including soda) and it is a house rule that he stay out of our cabinet as he gorges himself on inappropriate, or just all, food. Anyway he constantly sneaks and steals as he does not deem this rule significant and therefore does not feel the need to follow it.
Last night my husband watched him hurry from kitchen with soda so he upped the ante and told him he was turning off Internet and cell phone for a week. difficult child wanted to know what for all innocent and husband just looked at him and calmly stated "for going into our cabinet and stealing soda because you must be out of your supply". difficult child told him not to lie to himself and then husband left room.
The issue came later when difficult child decided he would not take his medications unless the Internet and phone were turned back on and started a circular irrational argument with husband for more than 30 minutes. He said a ton of hurtful things, as usual, and my husband informed him of the choice he was making. If he did not take his medications here would be no more violin lessons and he would be pulled from the musical group he is in. Honestly if he does not take his medications I would think the end of June plan would go into effect now.
I do not even know how to explain the weird escalating argument without going into detail but I think that anyone who reads this with a difficult child similar will know exactly what I am saying.
My husband disengaged and left the den. difficult child pounded on the den table downstairs a bunch of times while I sat transfixed in fear upstairs in the LR - after about 30 minutes he stormed upstairs and went to his room. My husband asked if he took his medications and he claimed yes. Usually the rule is for him to take them in front of us but my husband was so battle weary that he took his word for it. Not sure how I feel about that but difficult child went in room and to bed so I guess I should be grateful episode was over.
Thanks for listening.